apetoape Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 So i just recently started dating online and have been exhanging messages with this girl. The first thing she said to me was that she felt I might be too good for her, following by a I'm currently going through a divorce. Regardless, she gave me her number and we've been texting back and forth all week, with great banters. I've got her to send me more pics of herself, nothing explicit. So as she was sending me pics yesterday, I told her I want to meet and hangout soon. She responded with a LOL. Told her I'm ok if shes not comfortable yet and that we can keep on talking until she is. She gave me another LOL and a smiley face. I tried to lighten the mood by saying, hahaha looooooser She responded back with a I dont want to be friends with you anymore. Bye bye. I texted:( back saying, i was joking and its just something I say to all my friends. Havent heard from her since. I want to drop her and move on, but we just clicked so well. Is there anything I can do here, or is this pretty much game over? I'm thinking of sending her a "sorry if I offended you" note on her email. Help.
truth_seeker Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 I tried to lighten the mood by saying, hahaha looooooser She responded back with a I dont want to be friends with you anymore. Bye bye. I think she was looking for an excuse to bail and you gave her one. 1
soccerrprp Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 I think she was looking for an excuse to bail and you gave her one. This ^^^ and/or saying something remotely offensive is unwise when communicating with a stranger, someone you don't know well. Eh, next...
Author apetoape Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 This ^^^ and/or saying something remotely offensive is unwise when communicating with a stranger, someone you don't know well. Eh, next... I would agree, but we'll been bantering back and forth all week. i've said much worst things to tease her.
Art_Critic Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 She lost interest, interest HAS to be from both sides... You are experiencing what dating is all about, finding who and what you are compatible with, she found you were not compatible with her.. the trick is to find the match where you both feel compatible with each other. Good Luck and in the end you need to let this one lie, there isn't anything there for you. 1
Author apetoape Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 Yea, definitely wouldn't go the apology route. It will just leave her with a worse impression. On to the next one.... Her exact words were: "Me no friends with you no more, ApetoApe" "Bye Bye Apetoape" Don't want to dissect this to much, but doesn't that sound like its a joke? She speaks perfect English, and I;m sure she can conjure something better to type out than that. Wouldn't a woman lash out and say something along the line of "Whatever, F you, you suck, dont contact me ever again"
Author apetoape Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 She lost interest, interest HAS to be from both sides... You are experiencing what dating is all about, finding who and what you are compatible with, she found you were not compatible with her.. the trick is to find the match where you both feel compatible with each other. Good Luck and in the end you need to let this one lie, there isn't anything there for you. I will let this one lie, but just trying to learn what my mistakes were for the future. How can she flip from one moment sending me sexy pics, to 5 minute later losing interest? I'm baffled.
Art_Critic Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 you made NO mistakes... just the way dating and interest works.. it's all a mystery.. Good Luck 1
truth_seeker Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 At this point it's about ego and getting the upper hand. She got the last word in and slammed the door in your face. She's an idiot. It stings now, but the feeling with go away.
Lolita_Sky Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 So i just recently started dating online and have been exhanging messages with this girl. The first thing she said to me was that she felt I might be too good for her, following by a I'm currently going through a divorce. Regardless, she gave me her number and we've been texting back and forth all week, with great banters. I've got her to send me more pics of herself, nothing explicit. So as she was sending me pics yesterday, I told her I want to meet and hangout soon. She responded with a LOL. Told her I'm ok if shes not comfortable yet and that we can keep on talking until she is. She gave me another LOL and a smiley face. I tried to lighten the mood by saying, hahaha looooooser She responded back with a I dont want to be friends with you anymore. Bye bye. I texted:( back saying, i was joking and its just something I say to all my friends. Havent heard from her since. I want to drop her and move on, but we just clicked so well. Is there anything I can do here, or is this pretty much game over? I'm thinking of sending her a "sorry if I offended you" note on her email. Help. I disagree with all of these people. She never had any intention of meeting you to begin with. She never took you seriously...point period. Her responses to your request to meet should have been an indicator from the start. LOL? What is she, 16? Most people on dating sites don't take those sites seriously...so they don't take the people that they are talking to on there seriously either. Keep in mind A LOT of people that go on dating sites may already be in a relationship and are looking for attention and or for an ego boost. Its also very likely that they are looking to cheat on their significant other... Who knows? But the way this young lady was responding to you even when she said she no longer wanted to be your friend is a clear indicator that she never took you seriously. That, for whatever reason you were just a source of entertainment for her... Most people who are serious about meeting will meet with you within the first week of contact, if their schedule allows for it. I would suggest if you've gone past two weeks without meeting someone then give them up. They don't have any intentions of meeting you. You are for whatever reason just something to help stroke their ego or entertain them in their moment of boredom. Trust me, I've been on dating sites long enough to know. 1
Author apetoape Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 I disagree with all of these people. She never had any intention of meeting you to begin with. She never took you seriously...point period. Her responses to your request to meet should have been an indicator from the start. LOL? What is she, 16? Most people on dating sites don't take those sites seriously...so they don't take the people that they are talking to on there seriously either. Keep in mind A LOT of people that go on dating sites may already be in a relationship and are looking for attention and or for an ego boost. Its also very likely that they are looking to cheat on their significant other... Who knows? But the way this young lady was responding to you even when she said she no longer wanted to be your friend is a clear indicator that she never took you seriously. That, for whatever reason you were just a source of entertainment for her... Most people who are serious about meeting will meet with you within the first week of contact, if their schedule allows for it. I would suggest if you've gone past two weeks without meeting someone then give them up. They don't have any intentions of meeting you. You are for whatever reason just something to help stroke their ego or entertain them in their moment of boredom. Trust me, I've been on dating sites long enough to know. Funny that you mentioned this. She actually agreed to meet up for drinks before she gave me her number. Said she couldn't do it the week prior but could this coming week. I texted her yesterday just to remind her of what she said last week. But like everyone has already said, she most likely lost interest/found someone else.
heartshaped Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 She sounds unstable honestly. Responding with LOL when you ask about meeting up, saying you might be "too good for her", saying she doesn't want to communicate with you any longer even though you were clearly joking, etc. If I were you, I'd be glad I dodged the crazy bullet. 1
truth_seeker Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 She sounds unstable honestly. Responding with LOL when you ask about meeting up, saying you might be "too good for her", saying she doesn't want to communicate with you any longer even though you were clearly joking, etc. If I were you, I'd be glad I dodged the crazy bullet. The best thing to come of this is the experience! Happened to me as well, and now I know the warning signs to look out for...
StanMusial Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 This was someone you never met and may never know. Could've been a dude for all you know.
Author apetoape Posted November 1, 2013 Author Posted November 1, 2013 I let it lie like all you gents advised and........she texted me back after 4 days. Seems like a feeler text. It was just telling me a random thing that happened to her today. Any advice here? My instinct is telling me to wait a day or 2 to reply back and make her sweat it out. Thoughts?
phineas Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 I get women messaging me, offering their number, wanting to know when we will meet, then they flake last min. with the lamest of excuses & after I tell them No problem. I never hear from them again. It's called they got 5 other dudes they are talking to & you didn't make the final cut. Now, the lowest of the low will contact you out of the blue weeks later & act like they never blew you off to test the waters when their "the one" gets what he wanted & bails. Yeah, just ignore them at that point. 1
forgetmenot75 Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 I don't think she wanted to meet with you. It sounds more like a joke. She said you were too good for her? She was divorcing? You have red flags there . I'd suggest you don't text people you don't know well things like "looooser". It's ok with a friend though. I'd stop texting her. She has been clear with you: me no friend no more. Bye bye.
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 She texted with you for an ego boost but had no intention of going further. She is probably still to wrapped up in ex H and divorce drama. You shouldn't even bother with newly separated people.
NYSean Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 She probably already had a set of pictures of somebody else ready to show you. Her profile was probably fake, if you asked her to Skype with you she would've probably said "goodbye" too. There was one girl I knew who pulled this exact same stunt because she was using fake pictures.
theothersully Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 She didn't get the joke. You're done. Next one...
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