cavery Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 My ex has moved on. It's been 6 months. She dumped me for unclear reasons. Here I am, still wishing she would come back. Haven't gone totally NC. Although I don't talk to her anymore, I still check her FB. I still ask around about her. I just can't stop it. I learned she's moved on. She's seeing someone already. Yet, I can't stop myself thinking that she jumped right in that relationship too soon. 4 years of being together is not easy to forget. How could she have a new relationship 2 months after our break up. I've been doing pretty well, focusing on my job, mingling with other people, going out with friends. But there was never a moment that i stop thinking about her. I need your advice. I tried to be strong but I am losing my self here. It's been half a year and i still need her like I need air.
Mz_sassy_77 Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 I am a few months out of a 3 year relationship. He BU with me for vague reasons which in his mind were very valid. As soon as we broke up he went on the rampage and is actively trying to meet the next person to jump into a relationship with - I take that to mean I meant nothing to him. It's horrible. I hope that at 6 months I rarely think of him, if at all. I think you should stop looking at her FB. You aren't really in NC if you are still doing that. I know it is very hard but it's not good for you. The thing I hate about my situation is I am genuinely mourning the loss while he is out there having a party. I hate that. I hate it so much it drives me to push forward. Why should I be miserable while he's out there having fun?
Author cavery Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 I am a few months out of a 3 year relationship. He BU with me for vague reasons which in his mind were very valid. As soon as we broke up he went on the rampage and is actively trying to meet the next person to jump into a relationship with - I take that to mean I meant nothing to him. It's horrible. I hope that at 6 months I rarely think of him, if at all. I think you should stop looking at her FB. You aren't really in NC if you are still doing that. I know it is very hard but it's not good for you. The thing I hate about my situation is I am genuinely mourning the loss while he is out there having a party. I hate that. I hate it so much it drives me to push forward. Why should I be miserable while he's out there having fun? exactly my sentiment. Thank you. I wish you would get over this stage soon. I do recognize that I didn't help myself from moving on. But I am in a state where I don't want to forget her. She's my first love and we had an amazing time together. She seems to not regret losing our relationship. For anything, I think I was a pretty good boyfriend. I let her go when she wanted to leave. I am not bothering her at all. The only reason I could think of is that she's suffering from GIGS. We both are each other's first love. I'm thinking that when she gets tired, she would come back. But I am digging my own grave for hoping that. what should I do to stop myself in thinking that one day, it would still be us. I need help because I tried it on my own and it was no luck.
headinthecloud Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 How your ex perceives you should have no impact on you whatsoever. You need to start rebuilding your self esteem and find out who you are. You sound like you were codependent and that's probably why you're having such difficulties getting over her. Learn to find yourself and what you really want in a partner.
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