kobeparker939 Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 So just had the "What are your goals?" talk with a girl ive recently started seeing. She's a very ambitious girl and one of her goals was working abroad/overseas. Along with publishing a book along with working overseas. Not sure how I really feel about all this. We haven't been dating long but I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel a bit concerned as to where we may be headed if were to continue along our path. I personally have no intentions to work abroad should I meet someone that I can see myself settling down with, and I also don't really believe in long distance relationships. I don't really want to bring this up with her as the relationship is still so fresh yet theres now a bit of me doubting whether it's a good idea to continue going forward with the idea of us. How would you guys react to this? What do you do when future goals are so different Bit confused
todreaminblue Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 when you truly love someone ......soemtimes the dreams you had that seemed so strong and vibrant a plan ...pale into insignificance when the thought of not having that love in your life is the option you have to choose.....love conquers all...even dreams held...as the sacrifices you make again....are not so much a sacrifice to make when all of what you want and need is right in front of you..its all about compromise....and truly loving someone ...wheres theres a will theres a way to share dreams.....deb 2
Balzac Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Have either of you actually been overseas? Your opinion of "ambitious" is interesting. Do you find her goals intimidating or inconvenient? What other current evidence do you observe to document her ambition? Education, creativity, athletic, social service?
Bigcitydreamer Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 I agree with the todream, that love does change ones priorities sometimes and that love may become more important to you than the things you once thought you wanted. Also the things you want change over time. If its not a problem right yet (no long distance and other factors you don't want) why not continue on if you really like her. But I've seen the other side as well. When you compromise on major things and then you start wondering "what if I had taken the route that was my original plan in life?" Its almost like a bit of a mindf*** because you love the person but are afraid to settle down before pursuing your own dreams. I do believe its important to have similar life goals and dreams. It certainly makes things easier on everyone if you do. The things you mention don't seem that bad though. Long distance for a few months isn't that bad. Ambition in a woman is also definitely not bad. So as long as you have the same "picture" of where you want to be 5-10 years from now it's worth it. If you don't have the same picture you have to decide whether you can modify that picture at all.
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