relented Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Have been seeing this girl for a while now and we usually see each other once or twice a week she has introduced me to people as her boyfriend and ive met her mum and all her friends. We sleep together and go out together at parties. last night i told her that i was in love with her. She texted me saying she wants things casual and to see if things would develop in the future and that knowing i feel that way is too much pressure for her and that she cant carry on casual and wants to just see me as friends and still talk and hangout We are meant to be meeting up and talking today I just am so confused angry and hurt right now and i dont know how to handle this situation or what to do or say I dont have any friends or family so i have no one else to talk to.
soccerrprp Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Sorry, man. The two of you are not on the same page it seems. That simple. It happens a lot. Either slow things down (tough, I know) or tell her that you can't just be friends and move on. Go NC, but with the intent to move on... 1
Shashasha Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Def agree with th post above. She seems unsure about the relationship and if you guys remain friends, its just going to be frustrating for you and things mught go nowhere. I suggest going NC - if she really likes you, she will come back...its going to be tough, but you have to do it do you dont get hurt even more. Chin up
Imported Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Tell her you understand, but you can't keep yourself on the hook for her and will be moving on. However, if she is game, you're still up for sex and using her as a ****-buddy till you find a better girl (don't tell her that part and call it a friends with benefits or maybe figure out how to say ****-buddy in French).
Kate9292 Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Just because you have feelings for her, doesn't mean you're entitled to have them requited. That sucks but it's the way it works. And all you can do is accept that and move on.
soccerrprp Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Never tell a woman you love her...... They seem not to respond to that very well in the modern world. This is generally NOT true. You just have to be careful how and when you say it. The OP says he's been dating her for a while. What does that mean? How long? Most women, within reason, like to hear that their SO loves them, but timing and circumstances mean a lot. 1
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