sealyons Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 I am in constant communication with a common friend of ours and this friend somehow say things about my ex.,send pictures of her, how happy she looks etc. This has been going on for months and I thought ok, I don't care. I even once told this friend to stop talking about my ex and well, she mellowed a little bit but occasionally brings her in discussions we have. Like today, we were talking about phones and she was asking me which phone do i think is better and I said this...blah blah blah and then she mentioned that my ex said the same. Completely ignored that part and i went on explaining about phone features etc. Somehow the conversation went from phone features to women features and my friend said she doesn't like her freckles to which i said that I like freckles. (not hitting up on her, I treat her like a big sister). She said that's cause I like "European women" and they have lots of freckles. (told her before that i find european women attractive, my ex is Asian). I replied by saying "or a particular 'south african girl'. she probed further about this girl and I said just met her but I like her a lot. ( I do like the girl a lot but not on a romantic level) Im still pinning on my ex and I'm suspecting she's already in a realtionhsip with someone new. I'm already out of her life and I'm making sure of that by not interfering on her affairs nor sending her any messages. My communications with her is cut except with the common friend. I am pretty sure "the south african girl" will eventually reach her but do you think it's wrong to do that? It is just a lie but i felt rebellious in a way since it seems my ex is pretty moved on while im still here mopping Stopping communication with the common friend seems impossible right now because we have a business together although we live 4000 miles apart.
todreaminblue Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 so you want to send a message that you have moved on when you havent, i wouldnt if i were you,i dont know what purpose ti serves, i think one thing is to seriously comtemplate moving on seriously think about it then talk about it with others...its easy to think harder to say...when i talk about moving on....and actually have the capacity to , when i talk about it....i realize it just doesnt fit and i give up...lol...so in actual fact i talk myself out of things...especially dates i am not sure of...speaking of which soemone has just turned up....and i wish you well..my hint never accept a date unless you are sure.........deb
Author sealyons Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 so you want to send a message that you have moved on when you havent, i wouldnt if i were you,i dont know what purpose ti serves, i think one thing is to seriously comtemplate moving on seriously think about it then talk about it with others...its easy to think harder to say...when i talk about moving on....and actually have the capacity to , when i talk about it....i realize it just doesnt fit and i give up...lol...so in actual fact i talk myself out of things...especially dates i am not sure of...speaking of which soemone has just turned up....and i wish you well..my hint never accept a date unless you are sure.........deb yes you are right. since I can't cut the communication with the common friend and she seems to can't stop mentioning about how happy my ex is, I just told her i am happy too. Don't get me wrong, her mentioning about my ex has been going on for months. First I was really affected and I told her that she should stop talking about her as I am still moving on. Along these, she also mentioned multiple times that there is no point waiting because my ex has moved on and that she's eyeing someone. I stopped asking about my ex since then and that was like 3 months ago. But the common friend still continues to mention her. I just had my limit today because again, she mentioned the ex. I don't know why she keeps doing that but at the same time telling me to move on. I'm done telling her to stop because I did it hundred times already. Today, i told her I am beginning to like this south african girl but I can't say more because i'm still getting to know her. I'm not sure if I did the right thing. I am regressing here. I still want my ex, obviously.
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