kinder Posted December 12, 2004 Posted December 12, 2004 Well, my ex and I had a brutal break up as some of you may have read. Him, his family and firneds have all turned on me. It has been just over 4 months since he broke up with me and we have seen each other many times since as we live in a small town. We lived together for approx. 2 years and had been together fpr 3 years. He never really gave me reason for dumping me but I have my assumptions. Anyway, is it too late to start no contact now? The only reason we have had the contact is because we have been going through lawyers to settle everything out. He was so mad at me for some reason for a few months after the break up and then we saw each other out one night and had fun like we did in the good old days and ended up sleeping together and ever since he will look at me but no talking. He has told his co-workers as I just ran into a bunch of them where I work now and what I'm up to. Why is he filling them in with my life. Why is he still yapping about me. Will no contact not work? He said "I care about you, you are a great person with a good head on your shoulders and I don't want anything bad to happen to you I just don't love you anymore" HELP! Please I am breaking down again.
alphamale Posted December 12, 2004 Posted December 12, 2004 No contact works at ANY time as long as you really do not have any contact. This means NC in any way, shape or form.
Merin Posted December 12, 2004 Posted December 12, 2004 Originally posted by alphamale No contact works at ANY time as long as you really do not have any contact. This means NC in any way, shape or form. Tis' true...
Author kinder Posted December 12, 2004 Author Posted December 12, 2004 We will have absolutely no contact in a few weeks once we are done with the lawyers. Should I try and stay away from places he goes? The problem with that is that it is small town and we both enjoy the same places.
Merin Posted December 12, 2004 Posted December 12, 2004 Originally posted by kinder We will have absolutely no contact in a few weeks once we are done with the lawyers. Should I try and stay away from places he goes? The problem with that is that it is small town and we both enjoy the same places. For your own sanity and peace of mind.. yes do try to avoid going to the places you have a pretty good idea he will be going to...
Author kinder Posted December 12, 2004 Author Posted December 12, 2004 If we end up in the same place again will this break no contact even if we don't talk? Will him seeing me work against everything.
Puma Posted December 12, 2004 Posted December 12, 2004 id advise no contact also, and its not too late. try to avoid those places...even if its a small town..find somethin else to do for awhile, then when timeis right you can start goinback to those places as u will feel comfortable enough to do so.
Merin Posted December 12, 2004 Posted December 12, 2004 Originally posted by kinder If we end up in the same place again will this break no contact even if we don't talk? Will him seeing me work against everything. Kinder.. sister he CAN'T miss you IF you are always there. Seeing him will work against you.. you are still very emotional about everything and have not been able to distance yourself or detach yet.. Stay away from him.
Author kinder Posted December 13, 2004 Author Posted December 13, 2004 So this will be hard over Christmas for me but I can do it. I ran into some people that he works with and they knew what I have been up to and where I work as I got a new job and whatever else. I don't understand why he would still be talking about me to his co-workers. Can anyone explain this to me too?
Author kinder Posted December 13, 2004 Author Posted December 13, 2004 Sorry I am just having a heck of a time understanding this one now.
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