napy666 Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 What would you do if you came across a single dad or a single mom who had a kid? Do you think their just looking for a new parent to take care of the kid to replace the old parent? What would you do?
ChessPieceFace Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 What would you do if you came across a single dad or a single mom who had a kid? Do you think their just looking for a new parent to take care of the kid to replace the old parent? What would you do? I turn and walk (or run) the other way. It's absolutely disgusting how women treat men as disposable now. Why on EARTH would you walk into that. You're just being an enabler for chaos. Not to mention seriously risking your own happiness on a likely broken individual. 1
Author napy666 Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 Thats what my guy friend is doing - he found this girl him and her hit it off but she has a kid. She has her own business, works, and is attending schooling. She wants to take care of him, wanting him to come see her, and only wants him to provide the income. What should he do?
ChessPieceFace Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 I don't care what "your friend" does. I doubt he's smart & wary enough to be in that situation and not get himself caught up financially or otherwise. Cause most people wouldn't be. 1
todreaminblue Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 (edited) oh dear some really positive responses here.....not speaking as a single mum i dont need a guy to fix my family ...i would like to share my family and have a man who wanted to be part fo my family who accepted me and my tribe....and then my tribe will love and accept him...make him feel like an absolute member......my children are supported by their biological....father financially......and by me....i dont expect any guy to support me.....or my kids..... i dont think i should have to be alone because the my ex walked out.....my ex also doesn't want me to be alone..i have a life and a pretty wonderful often weird family to enrich a guys life not make it harder....and i dont need a guy who thinks i am after his money.....i have often gone out with guys when they have nothing.......because i get to see how they handle nothing......free dates...rock.... because you need an imagination to make them rock.....when i met my ex he was unemployed i wrote him his letters for job prospects. i supported him when he had no money.....i went out and got a job....not for long (he didtn want me to work i wanted to as he was not the father fo my sons i had at the time)...but i did what i had to ...we had awesome game nights at home video nights ...and popcorn and home made milkshakes on the lounge....... the job he has now I wrote that letter that the hirer loved....he earns a respectable three figures now.....money isnt everything however and cannot buy happiness ...or fidelity it seems.......... not all single mothers need a replacement....some single mothers have more to offer than what you think they do...i dont like the misconceptions of single mothers being gold diggers and wanting father replacements...its a bit upsetting when you are a single mum who sacrifices a lot in relationships to nurture and build relationships up including partners.. and in raising children th esacrifices are many...it is not a walk in the park feeding ducks...and many single mums are wodenrful people.....do you think anyoen really wants to be a single mum while they are thinking fo having children ...havent met one woman yet who says "yeah cant wait to be a single mum and struggle and have hardship then find some sucker guy as a meal replacement option, what a life to think of"....... ......deb Edited October 27, 2013 by todreaminblue 2
soccerrprp Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 ...and only wants him to provide the income. And this woman told you this? She seems to have her act together otherwise. So, let me get this straight...she wants to be with him, take care of him, but wants a more traditional role as a stay-at-home wife/mother? Does your male friend know that is what she wants?
cif Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 My ex married his single-mom GF. She immediately got pregnant and is now a SAHM. He pays her mortgage and takes care of all the bills. She won't even look for a job. I also have a friend who has pre-teen twins in a serious relationship. And while she doesn't expect her future H to replace the father she expects him to have a huge part in their lives since he will live with them full time. Certainly not all single mom's are like this but if you're going to be in their life how can you just ignore the child/ren? Are you willing to deal with all the drama?
HeyKat Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 I'm confused if she has her own business why she wants him to "provide income"? 1
Author napy666 Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 And this woman told you this? She seems to have her act together otherwise. So, let me get this straight...she wants to be with him, take care of him, but wants a more traditional role as a stay-at-home wife/mother? Does your male friend know that is what she wants? No he told me she told him this "she would only expect for me to work so she doesn't have to worry about financial ****. She has her own business."
MidwestUSA Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 So she's a single mom! With an income, a business, and going to school to boot. I'll bet she even drives a car. Maybe you can step back from the kid issue and see what your "guy friend" sees in her?
soccerrprp Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 No he told me she told him this "she would only expect for me to work so she doesn't have to worry about financial ****. She has her own business." So, the woman is saying as long as he has a job, she's good? She's not considering stopping work, right? She will continue with her own business. I don't see a downside to this. Am I missing something?
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