nataratafata Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 (edited) hello im new to this site so yeah lol im a guy who is also shy and i feel really i try to understand girls from before when i talk with them i get the silent awkward type of vibe because i quiet most of the time i hate it but its just me i guess overall i have friends that support me at times and i would like to know is it a tire off for being quiet because i know being quiet become a better listener and able to analyzed problems p.s im a programmer sorry i have a lot on my mind i get really nervous at time especially around new people. i try to calm but my senses are tingling when nervous lol i dont know alot about them not enough experience and i get the wrong signal from them like i think they hate me for no reason i thought it was my look for the long time until my friend told me other he told me i better looking and better dress then most guys. if wat he said was true then why it was difficult especially in high school didnt make any sense to me and it got me secend guess myself and coming up with the conclusion that i should just stay the hell away from girls. it upsetted me to think that why they ddint understand or why it was so difficult not like i was trying to take them to my layer or the batcave lol just kidding lol but idk it just got to me also a little add on im afraid of rejection embarrassing i know because of my low communication skills and and quietness it makes it hard to talk with them plus i feel like they want to find something to say about me. im not fat or ugly so i cant understand why girls not attracted to me . also i was talking with this girl and i really like her but im dont think she feels the same way about me can you give a tip how i should approach her text or call wise and make her feel the same idk i feel at a lost when im talking with her i try not to open my emotion when im talking with hers society said that not cool through the media plus im scared and nervous anyway thanks for listening to my thinking here lol dont think of me as a stranger, think of me as a good friend Edited October 27, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Eivuwan Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Hey there. You can start by communicating better online. It's hard to read what you wrote because it's all rambling and with few punctuations. Communication is a simple thing. Put yourself in the other person's shoes. To do that you have to stop focusing on yourself and your own insecurities and fears. Hence, the first step may be to work on your general social anxiety instead of looking for girls.
Assasda Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 How old are you? Also, you should take risks, dont be afraid to say what you mean. I think thats the main problem
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