HeyKat Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 "The Rules/Not your mothers rules"? I was going to post this under the self improvement but it depressed me to read that section. wow. I'm 35, been divorced 3 years, my first time back into dating was with an older not all that into me guy - so I'm thinking I don't know "the rules" of dating now. I'm very direct, if I like you, you know, if not, you will know(not in a rude way) It seems a lot of the advice on the boards is to not return a text or call or otherwise act disinterested - anyone read the books, have any advice to the newly returning? Thanks in advance!
YumYum_DimSum Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 The dating game hasn't changed since you were last in it. The only thing that has changed is the use of electronically mediated communication (cell phones, laptops, ect.) Everything is focused on the concept of "instant gratification." Instead of a phone call, people may send a text or email now. Being straightforward is not a bad thing, it allows the other person to see and understand what you want. If this person in particular is not too interested in you, then move on and find someone else. Don't make it too much of an effort to talk to him if he isn't responsive. You deserve someone who is equally just as responsive or more. The person you go for should be into you and initiate contact and dates. For future relationships though, if you want to better fit today's societal standards of dating, show your interest, but not full blown. Give subtle hints and allow the males to take the hint and assume the lead. Some men may be turned off by your straightforwardness because that is generally a trait that men must portray in order to be more masculine and attractive. Good luck! 1
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