YumYum_DimSum Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 My question is mainly presented towards the males to answer but females, please chime in with your opinions, thoughts, reactions! Here is the scenario: You're in college and you've been dating a new girl you've met for a month or two and you're ready to take it to the next level and turn it into an official relationship. You ask her if she is ready to take that next step as well and if she wants the same as you. Her answer is that she isn't ready, that in the past she's loved too blindly and made so many mistakes that has left her hurt and broken. She is fearful of opening up because she feels that to love so quickly would result in falling out of love just as quickly. She feels as if a lot of guys are jerks and are selfish and she is afraid that once you're together and you've made her your girl, that you won't want her anymore. She isn't looking for a relationship right now. You're hurt, yet she was straightforward and held nothing back in her answer. This within itself is respectable and gives you insight in where you stand. Guys: Would you continue trying for this girl, to prove that you're different from the rest because you want her. Will you be able to be patient, understanding, and loving even if in the end, nothing comes of it and there is a chance you two could only be friends? Why? Girls: What would you want a guy to do in this situation for you? If you were genuinely not interested in him would you remind him again and make it crystal clear? If you did like him but simply weren't ready for a relationship yet, would you want him to fight for you? How so and why? Guys and Girls: How far would You go?
Assasda Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 You can still get with this girl. But why would you want to put some much Bull$#!T pressure on her in the first place in just 2 months? Youre supposed to be having fun with her, not sabotaging yourself. So, you just brought something out of her, that is more complicated, when you could have kept it simple. She seems like a very honest girl. You can be mad about nothing
tunaluna Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 If a girl told me this it would hit me in two ways 1- I would be and understandable guy if I really liked her wait for her (to a certain extent) 2-This would send a red flag off that the person is not ready for a relationship and they shouldn't make it serious till both parties can agree without hesitation.
todreaminblue Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 I have been really hurt in relationships i have a natural distrust of men ...due to experience and it is hard for me to open up...in saying that .....no matter if i am scared and insecure i still try......if i care for someone that caring over takes fear......i would be willing to hold my fear in check......if ...i truly liked the guy.......and i was ready to be in a relationship... if i wasn't i wouldn't be dating in the first place.....and have quit dating when i realized i wasnt ready....i would want a guy to stick around if he truly cared....but...i would be understanding if he didnt and wouldnt hold it against him ...because most guys dont stick around, its nothing shocking...doesnt make a guy whop isn twilling to wait abad person...just means that i was not what he really wanted........deb
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