napy666 Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 My mom is always getting after me because when I go out I sometimes go out looking like a bum. She says I should always go out looking good make up, hair nice, etc. She thinks if I go out looking good that my Prince charming will walk up to me and ask me out. Is my mom right or wrong?
Assasda Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 Well more guys will want to come up to you. You want to look, like how you feel inside. If you look like you just rolled out of bed, then people will think that you dont have anything to offer. If you're dressed well, look confident, most people might say, "Here's a lady that's got it together, I need to talk to her"
Author napy666 Posted October 26, 2013 Author Posted October 26, 2013 How does wearing tight skinny ripped jeans and band tshirts and sneakers make me look my best? I have gone out before looking good and no guys have ever walked up to me and just talked to me.
lishabello Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 My mom is always getting after me because when I go out I sometimes go out looking like a bum. She says I should always go out looking good make up, hair nice, etc. She thinks if I go out looking good that my Prince charming will walk up to me and ask me out. Is my mom right or wrong? Personally, I think you should be yourself. You can dress up nicely sometimes, but don't over do it. After all, when you have a boyfriend, he not see you dressed up all the time. I have had guys come up to me when I was not even wearing any makeup. 1
Assasda Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 How does wearing tight skinny ripped jeans and band tshirts and sneakers make me look my best? I have gone out before looking good and no guys have ever walked up to me and just talked to me. I said nothing about tight ripped jeans. Wear something that you are confident in and that you feel good about yourself in. It may be tight, It may not, but you feel good about it. Also, you should be open for different guys to talk to you, not only your typical guy will talk to you, be open to that fact, and you will probably have to do some talking too. So if thats what you want, go out and do it
Author napy666 Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 Because I hate always making the first move and most of the time the guy has a girlfriend or ends up being younger than me haha.
KatZee Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 How does wearing tight skinny ripped jeans and band tshirts and sneakers make me look my best? I have gone out before looking good and no guys have ever walked up to me and just talked to me. Maybe you should work on your appearance as well as your attitude. Perhaps you put off a "hostile" or unapproachable vibe. If you're out in public and you're dressed sloppy and like a bum, do you think guys are going to fall all over you? No. Guys are visual creatures, they want a woman who looks like she takes care of herself, etc. First impressions are ALWAYS visual. 2
Author napy666 Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 Oh please tell that to the people who did look like **** i.e. tv and movie shows and real life and yet they got that cute or hot looking partner.
KatZee Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Oh please tell that to the people who did look like **** i.e. tv and movie shows and real life and yet they got that cute or hot looking partner. Yeah, that's not real life. That's fiction. It's TV & movies for a reason. Maybe that's your problem too. You think things work like they do on TV. They don't. 1
cif Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Men fall in love with their eyes, women with their ears.
Art_Critic Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Unless you are going to a Home Depot then your Mom is right, 100% right. 1
KathyM Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 I think your mother is right. You will be more likely to be approached by men if you look like you care about your appearance. You're not likely to be approached if you look like a bum when you go out. I got cold approached by strangers in my single years, and they turned into dating these guys. My sister even met her husband from a cold approach. He turned out to be a jerk, but the point remains that men do cold approach women they are attracted to. If you don't care about attracting men when going out to do your errands and things, then I guess you'll not make the effort. 2
Author napy666 Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 Well why should I wear dresses and skirts for? If I wear that going out to the mall or library or swap meet the guy who walks up to me may think I dress that way all the time. It may hurt him if he see's me the next time dressed all casual with jeans and t-shirts.
StanMusial Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Your mom is just trying to help. If you want to go out in public looking like ass that's fine but don't complain you can't find a date.
crude Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Are you the one who's desperate for men to find you, or is it your mother who's desperate for you? If you're not all that into being men's prey all the time, then ignore your mother, and dress up when you feel like it. 1
youaremysunshine Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Just be yourself! Being yourself is the only way to attract guys that like you for you. You sound young and maybe into a more "alternative" style. Seriously ripped jeans and band shirts are fiiiiine for casual situations, and they make a statement about your personality. As long as they fit well and highlight the best features of your shape. Also make sure your hair looks clean shinny, I find blow drying helps. As for make up, your call... When you are young you don't really NEED it. I find mascara makes the biggest difference and is a snap to put on. Anyway, the bottom line is if you wear a cocktail dress and heels every time you go to the store, yes more men will talk to you but maybe not the dudes you want to meet. 1
youaremysunshine Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 And when you say swap meet, do you mean record swap meet? Cause those guys are not looking for Kim kardshian. Stun em with your great taste and knowledge of music history!
lino Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 (edited) You should definitely do whatever pleases you. I always try to look my best for myself and myself only. I don't do it to please my mum or the opposite sex. Edited October 28, 2013 by lino Missing word.
Author napy666 Posted October 28, 2013 Author Posted October 28, 2013 I did go out today looking good. 2
ascendotum Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 I have had guys come up to me when I was not even wearing any makeup. Come on, you are just making that up. What crazy guy wants the fresh faced natural look. Ewww. Really poor girls & those counter cultural feral hippy girls can rely on natural beauty, everyone else needs cosmetics to be make themselves pretty for a guy to be interested. The more expensive the brand the prettier you'll look.
Kate9292 Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 I did go out today looking good. Yay. Must have felt really good dressed to the 9 and having all the attention on you, did it?
KatZee Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Well why should I wear dresses and skirts for? If I wear that going out to the mall or library or swap meet the guy who walks up to me may think I dress that way all the time. It may hurt him if he see's me the next time dressed all casual with jeans and t-shirts. I really don't think most normal people assume that just because you're wearing a skirt or a casual dress, that you wear that ALL the time. You can dress attractively, but casual at the same time. (jeans and a skater shirt is NOT casual & attractive, that's just sloppy.) Do you want to have a boyfriend or have guys come up to you? Then it's time to change up how you present yourself. An uncaring, sloppy, "bum attire" and lazy look is not going to get you a guy, and it also doesn't get you all that far in life, as people tend to judge on appearance, sad but true. You should want to strive to look your best no matter what you're doing, and it should be mainly for YOU. People feel better when they look good, they have a happier and more confident outlook. It kind of just sounds like you're annoyed with your mother's comments. If you don't care about guys, or getting approached, then just let it roll of your back. If you do care, what she's saying is correct. 2
youaremysunshine Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Katzee, while I think it's important to put some thought into your apprerance, people under 20 can get away with a more casual look. I'm 22 and I know none of the women in my social circle go form the prim and proper style of dress. Some of my friends are do modelling and my closest own a vintage clothing store. Even when I go out at night I am not trying to look like I am going to a job interview or a tea party! I do wear a very tailored, almost masculine style but I think it's still cute. Kind of a rock and roll Annie hall thing. Also in love with my old biker jacket, wear it with anything even pretty dresses. Note: men do not seem horrified at my less than girlish style Anyway OP you can dress however you want! Express your own personal style while keeping in mind how pieces fit and your grooming! Personally clean and put together is better than heaps of frills and cosmetics in my oppinion! I
acrosstheuniverse Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 I wouldn't really worry. I often wear slouchy jeans, band t shirts, and converse, and don't go short of male attention. It depends, a rocker dude is more likely to approach you if he's interested in the band you're into, you're probably not going to attract the kind of guys that like their women more polished and dressed in heels all classy, but if your usual style is more relaxed then those guys who are into the dressed up look aren't going to be impressed when you dress down anyway, either that or you'll end up stuck with somebody who you have to impress by dressing up for every day! I do always have my make-up done properly, every day, and don't go out without a blow-dry, always have my nails done etc. I find if I've got those things down then I can wear pretty much anything and still look nice. Sounds like your mother needs to butt out of your business a little
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