jen4 Posted December 12, 2004 Posted December 12, 2004 WOW! I really know how to pick em! I've been screwed over once more. I gave a guy my # on a monday was sort of with him on a wed. and by thurs that was it. he has not called and is obviously trying to tell me something. I know he's definatly not worth it but it pisses me off that I screwed up. I guess he did just want one thing and I didn't have enough self respect to say no. Just wanted to complain and just a little fyi for the men-if you aren't gonna stick around then don't act like you are,even if the woman is intimate with you soon,doesnt mean she's a slut!!!THANKS for listening.
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 12, 2004 Posted December 12, 2004 I know its against the "He's Just Not That Into You" Pop Culture Dating Bible, but nothing says that you can't pick up the phone and say "just wanted to say hello, and that I had a great time on Thursday". Keep it fairly impersonal and friendly. If he is nice to you on the phone, and you guys talk that's great. If you call and he shuts you down cold, then say the same thing and then just say your goodbyes and be done with it. If you call and get the machine, you can say the same thing and then say 'goodbye'. If he doesn't call you back, then you know for sure what the deal is and you can move on. No need for multiple calls, multiple messages or whatever. If he wants to call you back, he will after the first call. Hit and run dating is unfortunate - and it appears that is what is going on here, but nothing says you can't do a polite callback to see what the deal is.
reasontosigh Posted December 12, 2004 Posted December 12, 2004 Good idea, LB! Heck, for all anyone knows the guy may have had job demands or other things that just happened to be keeping him busy of late. And, being holiday season, that's a sort of demand in itself! Or maybe he's wondering if he should even call because he's unsure if she had a good time or what. After all, it's just one call we're talking here.
kellyp1 Posted December 12, 2004 Posted December 12, 2004 Look on the bright side, if he did pull the date-and-run, he is gone already and didn't milk it for a few more dates if he was not interested. I had a guy pull a 9 month d-and-r with me and I haven't heard from him in over a month (and I did try calling). Better to get it over with now then to drag it out. And there are nice guys out there too. Keep the faith and next time hold out for at least a few dates to get to know each other more. Just remember, they are not all complete idiots like this guy might end up being.
alphamale Posted December 12, 2004 Posted December 12, 2004 Originally posted by jen4 just a little fyi for the men-if you aren't gonna stick around then don't act like you are,even if the woman is intimate with you soon,doesnt mean she's a slut!!!THANKS for listening. ever though about not sleeping with some new dude for 2 or 3 months? trust me, they will respect you a lot more and may even hang out for a few yrs. every woman i had sex with early on ended up being a casual fling.
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