CNE181 Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 (edited) Allow me to apologize if this isn't in the right forum, I wasn't sure where to put it. Anyway, now that that is out of the way haha on with the show... Here's the deal. My ex and I broke up (he broke up with me, if that even matters) about a month ago. We both work in the same place, so we can both easily see each others schedules. When we were together, I would sometimes look at his schedule to see when we could have time together, or sometimes he just asked me to look at it for him. I would always keep an eye out for him and tell him when he was late, or when he maybe had his schedule written down incorrectly. The thing is, after we broke up, I stopped looking at his schedule completely cause I had no interest in knowing when he was there (and I also found it just made the breakup easier). There have been several times when he has been late, and people at work would tell me, expecting me to tell him. I feel bad for letting him be late to work, but I don't really feel like I am responsible for that anymore. Am I wrong for keeping my mouth shut and allowing him to be late for work? Edited October 26, 2013 by CNE181
Sweet108 Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 You can feel bad if you want to but come on now you know it is not your problem. He's a big boy whether in a relationship with you or not in a relationship with you. He can and should be able to get himself to work on time, unless he is mentally challenged or has some other issue that you didn't mention. I'm going to assume he is not incapacitated.
Author CNE181 Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 Thank you! That is what I thought
reddragon588 Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 He should be able to get himself to work on time, that is one of the basic responsibilities of having a job. If he can't do it himself, that's his problem. You are not in any way responsible for him. 1
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 For heaven's sake... this, if typical of LS, would be a thread about the OP being "unable" to keep from mining his schedule and arranging his (wake-up calls). Hopefully this OP can stop and realize as much and thank heaven that she is able to not be concerned by his schedule anymore.
Sugarkane Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Tell him to buy an alarm clock, many people have them. In most places if you continue being late, you actually get fired. 1
Author CNE181 Posted October 28, 2013 Author Posted October 28, 2013 (edited) For heaven's sake... this, if typical of LS, would be a thread about the OP being "unable" to keep from mining his schedule and arranging his (wake-up calls). Hopefully this OP can stop and realize as much and thank heaven that she is able to not be concerned by his schedule anymore. I am glad to no longer be burdened by the task of making sure he gets to work on time. In fact, I find it quite annoying that people still think I should be responsible for calling or texting him whenever he is late. Sure, I never had to do much of this in the past, but he has been late about three times in the past month now and I have kept my mouth shut each time. I am not his mother and the only schedule I am responsible for is my own. I just wish others would realize this. p.s. not exactly familiar with all of the terms you used (LS and OP), as I am not really on here a lot, but thank you for your reply Edited October 28, 2013 by CNE181 1
reddragon588 Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 LS = Love shack (this website) OP = Original Poster (the person who started the thread)
Author CNE181 Posted October 28, 2013 Author Posted October 28, 2013 LS = Love shack (this website) OP = Original Poster (the person who started the thread) Thank you! I felt kind of silly not knowing all of these terms. Hopefully I didn't sound like too much of an idiot asking haha
Chi townD Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Here's the deal. My ex and I broke up (he broke up with me, if that even matters) about a month ago. We both work in the same place, so we can both easily see each others schedules. If you can both easily see each others schedules, then he can easily see his own. He needs to take responsibility of when and where he needs to be. That's not your problem anymore. And if he gets canned for it, that's not on you. He's a grown ass man, he doesn't need a babysitter.
Author CNE181 Posted October 29, 2013 Author Posted October 29, 2013 Thank you. I really am putting too much thought into it and need to realize that I need to worry about me and me only.
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