Wife left me and the kids.

[BOSSHOGG5]

Have not been on here in a while. I scroll and I found this. My ex left me and my kids for another man as well. I have three boys and one of them was grown but he was there with me when we discovered she left. My other two were teenagers at the time and now I am raising one teenager. My boys and I all live together now.

 

My ex came to visit after being gone for three years. I let her stay with us. I even let her have my bed and I slept on the couch the nights that I was home. The minute I saw her at the airport I had complete closure. I am with another woman now and I was very curious as to how I would react on seeing my ex. She lost all kinds of weight and she looked bad. I kind of felt sorry for her. Through her visit I never said one thing to her about what happened, why does she not give support for her child, etc, because for me and my situation it didn't matter.

 

I was in your shoes once Homie, and I can tell you that, yes there is a rough emotional road ahead but you will get through it all. Please don't make a fool of yourself by wanting her back. She has made her decision. Do not let her yo yo you around because one day you will look back on this and say, "Why was I groveling over someone like her".

 

I have met a wonderful woman and she runs circles around my ex and honestly, comparing the two is not my intention because it does not matter. All that matters is my present in regards to my boys and my new woman and my future. My ex no longer has space in my world.

 

In one way or the other, this will happen to you as well as long as you look forward with blinders on in regards to her. Once I got in that mode it was a done deal regarding my ex wife. You don't need revenge just move on! I took on the attitude that no one is going to disrespect me and be apart of my life.

 

It's hard but you can do it my man. One hour after hour. One day after day. One month after month and then you are home free. You are better than the whole situation. You have to believe in yourself.

 

REAL TALK!

[Canadiangirl78]

Wow..I just read your story and it literally brought me to tears. I feel for those children and I feel for you. I cannot even imagine leaving my children behind for a di*k, it's truly the unthinkable. My thought after reading through your story is that this bitch did you a favour, I know it doesn't feel like that now but she did. In time I am sure you will be glad that she's in your rear view mirror. You sound like an amazing man, and it's proof as you are the only parent any of those kids can count on. Thank god for men like you in this world! Let her be some other mans problem, it sounds to me like you are way better then she could ever hope to be, you deserve better my friend. Of course you are going to hurt, this is normal after something as traumatic as this but please know that as the days go by, some days feel like they won't end, but one day you will wake up and it's not going to hurt so bad. You will feel anger as you should at her for this. She DOES NOT deserve you for one more minute of her life..