Matthewb12456 Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 Hey there, so there is this girl I had coffee with the other day and we really hit it off, seemed to have a great conversation and we both commented on how easy the other person was to talk with. We were chatting on Facebook and flirting, her telling me she would love to hear my play guitar with a face, etc, anyways haha it was very laid back and fun. That was a few days ago, now she has not really responded to my texts or if she has, has said a few word responses. Im trying not to overthink and realize she is a student and works so is busy so no worries, but would like to know if this is common with women. Do they often take a few days to ask themselves if they want to continue seeing a guy, me in this case? I texted her this morning and no response, so I am going to try and not message her for a day or two and see if she messages first? Can you relate to any of this? - Thanks in advance!
Joaquin Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 May be a mad suggestion, but...have you ever thought of calling the girl? As for being busy, let alone too busy to reply to a text, no, I don't buy it. If your gonna push on with texting as your primary means of communication I'd pull back and wait for her initiate. IME when a girl is keen she leaves you in no doubt. 1
Claysmommy Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 If I like a guy I will respond to his texts within a 12 hour time frame(at the most). If I don't like a guy, it's 50/50--I may respond but if I do its few words and I'm not trying to keep the conversation going, or I may ignore him. Sorry I don't think she's interested. 1
Joaquin Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 I'd say just call when you think the girl isn't at work. If she doesn't pick up then a text to say you called and ask her to give a call when suits. I'm not a fan of voice messages. Ball in her court. Up to her then. The initial stages can be a bit cat and mouse for sure.
bentleychic Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 If I like a guy, I have to hold myself back so I don't respond AS SOON as I see his text. LOL In this day and age, there's no reason (aside from emergencies) not to text back within 24 hours (and that's pushing it. I'd say a lot less time than that, actually). 2
Bito Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 To stressful to think about. If im not busy ill text back. If the other person is scared off because I sometimes text back within a minute or 2 then sucks for them.
Winherback Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 Its simple. Follow the basic 1 to 1 ratio. You start one you get one. She starts one, you send one. Then start fresh and keep it balanced throughout. There are always gap fillers of course and its ok to initiate back to back on occassion to keep things flowing and life does get in the way. If she takes 30 mins to respond, so do you. If she responds right away, then you too in a few minutes and so on and so forth. The key is to also continually mix it up between text, calling, facebook, etc but always follow the ratio. If they pull back, then you do too. Match what they are doing and never do too much, never over analyze (ya right! lol) and you give the relationship a chance to grow naturally without trying to make anything happen. Also, avoid the general how how are you doing or hows ur day type texts for the most part. Your texts should always have a POSITIVE impact on her feelings. Be goofy, light hearted, use funny pics, be spontaneous, share funny embarrassing moments, etc and never too serious over text. The minute things start to get too serious and start to have a negative effect, pick up the phone immediately or say its best we talk about this later.
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