Sugarkane Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Why did you put up with this for so long? Her Behaviour sounds extreme and very unattractive. Did she have to give up her social life too? Was she allowed to look at other guys, wear a bikini? Or was it double standards?
Author Qqq Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 I loved her and told myself it would get better in time but it just got worse. Yes, it was a major double standard which used to drive me insane. Very hypocritical. Something she does all the time is okay, but if I did it look out.
Downtown Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 (edited) She continues to get mad at me if I even look at a girl on the television. She began to get very passive aggressive. I would ask her simple things and she would turn them into a fight.Have you ever asked a professional whether she may have moderate to strong aspects of BPD traits? I ask because you seem to be describing a strong fear of abandonment, temper tantrums, and a double standard. All of those behaviors are symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder. Edited October 27, 2013 by Downtown
Author Qqq Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 I am almost positive this is what she has.
Downtown Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 I am almost positive this is what she has.I'm so sorry to hear that. I suggest that, if you ever feel tempted to take her back, you talk with a psychologist to find out for sure what you will be dealing with when you reunite with her. Leaving a BPDer is very painful. The primary reason, of course, is that when a BPDer is behaving well, she is exceptionally good -- beyond anything you've experienced with other women.
Author Qqq Posted October 28, 2013 Author Posted October 28, 2013 I'm so sorry to hear that. I suggest that, if you ever feel tempted to take her back, you talk with a psychologist to find out for sure what you will be dealing with when you reunite with her. Leaving a BPDer is very painful. The primary reason, of course, is that when a BPDer is behaving well, she is exceptionally good -- beyond anything you've experienced with other women. Yes, when she is good she is the greatest. I Also think I have codependency issues. So it is like jet fuel on her fire.
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