12123 Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 So I'm in this weird situation: There's this girl who I find super attractive. She's attractive and tall, but she suffered a horrible break up before, and that just made her insecure about herself. I know she's looking for a long term relationship. I was talking to her for about 2 weeks in the beginning of the summer, but after I heard from a friend that she wasn't interested anymore, so I just never replied back to one of her texts at all. I still see her occasionally in person, but it's more like "hi" and "bye." I want to start talking with her again, but I'm not sure how she feels about me anymore. It's been over 4 months since then. I know her best friend usually stares at me when she sees me. Talking to her from this point will be a challange that might take some time. But there's another girl: I've known this girl for over a year. She doesn't have the most attractive face, and she's on the verge of losing weight. She has a great personality, and she is a pear shaped girl. She's not fat or chubby, but she's not average or skinny. This girl told me she liked me more than a friend, but I told her I need time to think things through. I think I'm more sexually attracted to this girl, and I have a feeling if I start a relationship, it won't last long. Talking to this girl would be easier than girl #1. Mind I say that I'm looking for a long term relationship, and my personality matches up more with girl #1 than girl #2. G#2 is a great friend to me, but I just don't think we're compatible in that way, while G#1 and I share the same taste in music, same career goals, same beliefs, etc. But I also feel like I might just be sprung on G#1. I really don't know what to do. Should I forget about both, and wait for other opportunities? Or should I go after one of these girls?
Claysmommy Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 Forget both. You aren't even sure about girl #1 having interest in you, so how can she be a possible prospect at this point. Unless she's given you signals that she's interested I think you just need to move on from her. Girl#2 really isn't what you want. If you want sex thats one thing, but it doesn't even seem like you're attracted to her, plus she is a good friend who has feelings for you. You don't feel the same, so why string her along? That could ruin you great friendship. Wait for better opportunities.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 Forget both. You don't really seem interested in Girl #2, and she'd be more of a distraction than anything else. That's not fair to her (or to yourself) You blew off Girl #1 because you heard from someone else (?!) that she wasn't into you. Big mistake. I wouldn't really even consider her to be an option at this point; you haven't spoken to her very much for a while and she might not be interested in you any more. Find someone else and let this be lesson learned, as far as the situation with Girl #1 goes.
Recommended Posts