tcd421 Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 5 years ago i was in a relationship with a woman who was going through a divorce and she ended things with me because her kids were having issues with me being around. my feelings for her never changed but i was able to move on. fast forward to early 2013 and we started talking again. her kids are grown up and out of the house but she is also been married for 4 years. last april she was fighting with her husband bad and asked me to meet her to talk. that did happen and alot more also happened that night though sex did not. come may her husband found out i was in the picture and what we had been talking about and told me to back off. which i did stayed away for 3 months to let things chill. I wanted to apologize for that night, but now old feelings are once again taking over for both of us. she wants to meet again. I have the power to blow her marriage up, and it bothers me, but she says its her choice.
bentleychic Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 You have the power to walk away, too. I'm curious, have you just been holding on for the past 5 years? You've effectively gotten involved in two of her marriages. Someone needs to decide if you all are going to stay together or end things completely once and for all so that no more lives are ruined.
Lessons Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 (edited) She's right - it is her choice. . . to stay and cheat, or divorce hubby #2 and come back to you as a single woman. Since there is nothing but pain and misery for YOU if she chooses to cheat with you, you also have a choice: to involve yourself in an affair that will surely end badly for all three parties, or to wait for her until her divorce is final. Her husband has already warned you once. You might not get off so easily the second time you interfere in his marriage. Her children will remember that you were around during divorce #1. If you are part of divorce #2 as well, they are likely to think of you as a completely selfish, amoral, homewrecker. . . not a great way to build a relationship with people who may be your stepkids someday. You have the power here. . . please choose wisely. I wish you well. Edited October 26, 2013 by Lessons typo
RickFox Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 Here's what you do: leave her alone. You seem to be the fallback guy when things aren't going well and she needs to feel wanted. You're blinded because you have strong feelings but she just wants a bit of adventure. I don't think you're her first rodeo 4
Rollercoaster Rider Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 5 years ago i was in a relationship with a woman who was going through a divorce and she ended things with me because her kids were having issues with me being around. my feelings for her never changed but i was able to move on. fast forward to early 2013 and we started talking again. her kids are grown up and out of the house but she is also been married for 4 years. last april she was fighting with her husband bad and asked me to meet her to talk. that did happen and alot more also happened that night though sex did not. come may her husband found out i was in the picture and what we had been talking about and told me to back off. which i did stayed away for 3 months to let things chill. I wanted to apologize for that night, but now old feelings are once again taking over for both of us. she wants to meet again. I have the power to blow her marriage up, and it bothers me, but she says its her choice. This makes no sense... she broke it off with you because of her children, but then married another man 1 year later? Now this marriage isn't working and she invites you back into the picture?? My opinion...if she cared about you, you would have been husband #2. Sounds like she uses you to get out of a mess that she created. I would stay far away from her... 1
whichwayisup Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 This is a mess. Stay away and let go of her. It didn't work before and it isn't going to work now. This woman is going to use you and hurt you! She is married, her kids don't like you so there's no chance of this working. Find your self esteem, pride and ego ..... Man up and KILL the feelings, shut the door and find a woman who doesn't have so much baggage, a woman who is single and will treat you well. 1
Author tcd421 Posted October 28, 2013 Author Posted October 28, 2013 well we talked and decided our past is where it belongs, we are both fine with that.
RickFox Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 and what does that mean? you're done with each other?
harrybrown Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Good, because if she will cheat with you, she might cheat on you.
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