Omei Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 I can't stress enough how important it is for you to just let your man take a glance when a pretty lady walks by he's not going to put a ring on her finger or screw her following the 10 sec or less he saw her, I can't stress enough how harassing and low it makes them feel to be nitpicked and accused of caring for someone they saw for 10 seconds, Do the ladies not look at other men? They're human and they shouldn't have to fear going out in public as if a black cat will cross their path(pretty girl). The only thing this will ever do after years of jealousy is drive them too cheat, hell they're being accused everyday right? Might as well do the deed if they're already in a hell for it. SO STOP. 1
OpheliaSong Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 Wow, who accused you of a wandering eye? You sound angry!
LuvsTrucks2 Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 When we were together and things were right between us, my STBXH never took his eyes off of me, I had his undivided attention. Then one day everything shifted and the affair happened.
Author Omei Posted October 26, 2013 Author Posted October 26, 2013 (edited) Wow, who accused you of a wandering eye? You sound angry! Its not an angry post, I am a woman I made this post because of the staggering posts of people having this happen and blowing it so much so out of proportion they lose their bfs. People should give trust until proven wrong. Edited October 26, 2013 by Omei 2
HokeyReligions Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 Freudian slip? "Peak" vs. "Peek" Its one thing to glance and another to pitch a tent in your pants. LOL 4
ConstantVoyager Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 I've never noticed my BF checking out other women. I'm sure he does, but he's respectful enough to do it discreetly. I don't think that's too much to ask. 7
ExpatInItaly Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 I've never noticed my BF checking out other women. I'm sure he does, but he's respectful enough to do it discreetly. I don't think that's too much to ask. It really isn't. It's common decency not to eye up others when you're with your partner. I can't stress enough how important it is NOT to be obviously checking out other people. The same goes for women who do it. Have enough respect for your significant other keep it discreet. 2
fujidabruin Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 It really isn't. It's common decency not to eye up others when you're with your partner. I can't stress enough how important it is NOT to be obviously checking out other people. The same goes for women who do it. Have enough respect for your significant other keep it discreet. I agree with this opinion and would like to further expand upon when it might be appropriate to discuss with your SO about noticing something attractive about some random person. Perhaps, to spice things up in the bedroom..... thoughts???
fujidabruin Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 I also wonder if this issue is appropriate to discuss with your SO in private so that there is no misunderstanding about what is going on when looking..... I see that as an opportunity to build trust.
ls32ssibm Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 The only time I've looked at other women in a relationship was when I was dating someone who was less than attractive (IE, me not trying to be shallow). This was younger me. Since I've found out this can't work, when I'm dating someone I am attracted to I don't really have any desire to look. Maybe it's just me.
Author Omei Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 (edited) Freudian slip? "Peak" vs. "Peek" Its one thing to glance and another to pitch a tent in your pants. LOL Holy Shiza!!!! Im laughing so hard! I find woman very lovely to look at I dont date them but I have slept with a few. me and my last bfs we would point out girls together, it doesnt bug me.. ...and im still laughing fail title lol stupid phone. Edited October 27, 2013 by Omei
Imported Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 (edited) I've never noticed my BF checking out other women. I'm sure he does, but he's respectful enough to do it discreetly. I don't think that's too much to ask. I took a girl out to something like a "Hooters" 2 days ago for lunch (her idea!). The girls working there wear way skimpier super skin tight low cut tops and super short shorts that are riding up their butt cheeks. I mean...OMFG, how can a guy not look!!!??? So I attempt "not looking" ( I am still looking, but not moving my head and eyeballs to do so). It was very difficult. Then a little short petite half-asian chick with very nice boobs and an incredible ass walks by and it became impossible not to look. I broke down and had to put my hands up around my eyes like I was wearing horse-blinders and I told her I am trying not to look, but ....damn. She just laughed. Things went a lot better after that. Felt like a load was lifted off me and I was then better able to interact with her. Edited October 27, 2013 by Imported 1
Kate9292 Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 I can't stress enough how important it is for you to just let your man take a glance when a pretty lady walks by he's not going to put a ring on her finger or screw her following the 10 sec or less he saw her, I can't stress enough how harassing and low it makes them feel to be nitpicked and accused of caring for someone they saw for 10 seconds, Do the ladies not look at other men? They're human and they shouldn't have to fear going out in public as if a black cat will cross their path(pretty girl). The only thing this will ever do after years of jealousy is drive them too cheat, hell they're being accused everyday right? Might as well do the deed if they're already in a hell for it. SO STOP. Haha. I'm the one peeking in our relationship. My bf often gets jealous of it and I kinda like that he does. I don't forbid him from looking at other girls if he wants to, but he is so smitten with me
central Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Look, yes. Stare, no. My wife even points out attractive women to me. She knows I enjoy seeing a beautiful women, and also knows that they aren't competition. I point out her type to her, as well. Niggling jealousy over something so trivial would be a red flag, IMO. 1
StanMusial Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Reminds me of my married buddy that sometimes checks out girls and says "Ooh she's hot" to his wife. Haha. She doesn't care, she knows he could never pull girls like that LOL.
Woggle Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Everybody looks. Touching is when a line has been crossed.
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