mw_75 Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 I authored a post here some time ago entitled “It Is a Lonely Life I Lead”, and have had little change in my situation since then. In brief: • I have been single for about three years • I’m a Junior in college, studying Mechanical Engineering Technology • I play two instruments and study jazz, performing with two university groups. • I’m a practicing Catholic, sing with the church choir, and visit those in the hospital for outreach ministry. • I’m a writer of poetry, fiction, lyrics…you name it. • I restore old vehicles in my spare time (how do I have spare time you ask? I haven’t the slightest idea!). • I’m not in a position to speak about my physical attractiveness: I’m 6’0 feet tall with a 32” waist; I have blue eyes and make a point of dressing well. That’s all I can say. To be certain, I’m blessed to have been given the life I’m living. In the past three years I have had two dates, and in both cases the girls in question have stood me up. I’ve looked around and tried to broaden my horizons a bit, but have had little success. I’ve looked at my church, but again met little success, as the girls there are happily taken. I live the life of a very lonely man, like someone bound in icy silence. I have, in my soul, a love I wish to give to someone. It’s akin to hearing beautiful music in one’s mind, but having no means to play it. It’s especially difficult because I see such beauty around me. Every girl I pass on campus or on the street makes me smile: because each is a creation of grace and beauty. My appreciation should not be mistaken for desperation, because I’m not after sex or social conformity or any such nonsense. All I want is someone to walk with in this life, to complete me, someone to whom I can give the world; or rather, my world. My heart is like a Van Gogh painting hanging in a dim corner, any eloquence or beauty it possesses becomes extent only in the presence of a beholder. I have yet to find that beholder.
fallenheart Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 First step? Lighten the hell up. Stop taking yourself so dreadfully seriously. All this mopey flowery poetry stuff? You might think it makes you charming and tragic, but it's instant vagina-repellent. You are not a tragic unique misunderstood soul....you're the same as every other lonely 21 year old. If you want to find your (ahem) "Annabel Lee" (which if I'm not mistaken was one of Poe's doomed relationships...you sure you want to use that as a model?)......be a postiive outgoing person. Have something to OFFER a girl. If a girl has to work at it to find the beauty of the "inner you" then she's not going to waste her time. Show girls that you have something great to offer right away. tl;dr......stop being such a whiny little emo. Girls hate that. 2
todreaminblue Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 write on poet.......dont give up you will find the right woman for you,someone who appreciates what you have to offer..........try poetry readings book signings or anything artistic ...keep your mind open at your church because you have common interests there adn they understand you .........dont listen to anyone who tells you to change who you are and what you love, but, try not to come on too strong....i am a poetry gal....but if a guy started quoting it when i first met him.....i would be edging towards a wall.......and the exit..the men i normally go out with are opposites....and completely different ...i prefer to have an anchor someone who can tell me .....deb back to reality now............ i write poetry myself......used to give it to my ex...who loved it by the way and he was a bouncer bodybuilder still asks to read my poetry and had no hesitation in telling people he loved my poetry(no one ever called him a pansy...)...he would have kicked their butt...smilin) ...it isnt the words he really likes it is my passion in the words...which is intensity...... save that for when you have a girlfriend...WRITE ON......i never send poetry to peopel who dont know me well enough to understand my passion or my heart......i do not wax lyrical unless i know the person i am waxing to, actually gives a crap............good luck......deb 1
hatsya Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Some pretty harsh replies here.. I think maybe you just have to become more aggressive in your seeking of a companion. Whatever that looks like for you - try harder. Girls like a guy who takes action. Good luck. 1
shimmychanga Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Yeah, Annabel Lee dies in that poem. Probably most women don't want to be dead.
Els Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 You sound sweet. And you say you've been single for 3 years? Does that mean you had a girlfriend before that? If you did, it's quite an accomplishment, because many boys pass 17 years of age without having achieved that. Are you talking to those girls who make you smile on campus? Or do you just pass them by quietly? And don't let the others get you down. You may not be everyone's cup of tea, but you will be to some. And the guys bitching at you hardly have shining examples of love lives themselves. Good luck! 1
todreaminblue Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 You sound sweet. And you say you've been single for 3 years? Does that mean you had a girlfriend before that? If you did, it's quite an accomplishment, because many boys pass 17 years of age without having achieved that. Are you talking to those girls who make you smile on campus? Or do you just pass them by quietly? And don't let the others get you down. You may not be everyone's cup of tea, but you will be to some. And the guys bitching at you hardly have shining examples of love lives themselves. Good luck! elswyth....((((((hugs)))))))...guess what i have figured out if i use online narrator while typing i make less mistakes when the letters are repeated and i can type really fast....i love ti when i do ellipses ....goes ppppp period....liek an epileptic rap so cool...anyhoo.....he is getting slammed a bit huh by guys who write on an interpersonal site ......funny that ...is that irony because i am smiling.......love the fat girl and alimony comment warms the cockles of my heart.....not.....smilin.....i secodn everythign you say as usual thoughtful andcompassionate.........your friend deb.....rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrock on opening poster ....dont listen to nay sayers 1
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