After almost 4 years its over

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Ok, first time posting on theses forums but i've read alot of the threads and it has helped me alot in my moving on process. Here is my situation. So I was with this girl for almost 4 years, we developed a great bond for each other and it was going very well. When I met her she was 14 and still in high school and I was 17 and in trade school. She approached me on a dating site and we seemed to fit really well together. She said that she was very attracted to me and was stalking me in high school (we went to the same high school) but I had never noticed her. Anyways, from day 1 are relationship was great, yeah we had are fights this and there but it made are bond stronger in overcoming them together. She always asked me when will we get married, kids, all that stuff. Things were getting pretty serious after 3 years, people were saying we go really well together. I have been very generous to her, we spent all of our time together and happy. I have had thoughts of getting engaged to her a couple of months ago. In august we finally went on a trip together, it was amazing and we had a blast together and talked about going somewhere else right when we got back. Prior 3 days of the break up he told me that she loved me very much, that I was the man she wants and that she couldn't live without me. Then the next day she told me that we shouldn't see each other for the week because she had too much homework (she's 18 now and in college 2nd year, im 21 and have a full time job). I told her it was fine and I didn't think much of it. A day later I wish her to have a nice day like every other day but she never responded. She would usually respond in a matter of minutes and it had been the whole day that she didn't answer. I had a feeling something was going on during the day and I felt sad. I texted her at the end of the day asking why she had not texted me back, she told me "I didn't see the text". Even if she is on her phone very often during the day. Then I asked her "Do you still love me?" and got the famous "We need to talk." this was on the 25th of september. Got to her place told me it was over she said that she wasn't happy anymore, we were too different. She told me that she still loved me, wanted to stay friends, then it's not you it's me and finally if it's meant to be then we will be together. I was so confused, didn't understand anything and I was so destroyed. I went to pickup my stuff a couple days later, I told her that we could not stay friends and we would have to cut contact for a while. She seemed really sad about it and angry too even if I told her I needed time to heal. So after about 2 weeks NC, I brake and contact her. She acts like she doesn't care about me not for one bit. I tried everything to get her back but not the slightest emotion from her. Then I found the theory of g.i.g.s. on the forums. I feel like I am starting to understand what is going on. She had started to go out every weekend drinking and partying, acting like if she was the hottest thing on earth, flirting with guys that are the complete opposite of me right after the break up. It might be a phase she's going though, or not, only time will tell. Life is precious and I'm not going to sit around waiting for her to come back. It's been 3 days that I haven't contacted her, I just deleted her as a friend on FB and I'm counting everyday like a victory but I still think about her everyday. I still talk to some of her family members but I'm not sure if I should not talk to them. It would be very rude, just not myself and I appreciate them. Sorry if my post it really long. I would have never thought of talking about this on forums.