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We have been sort of dating for a little over 2 months. I lost contact with him for 3 weeks due to some things going on in my life...that are still on going. We reconnected.

 

He's crazy about me, he's told me he's attracted to me in every way. Physically, emotionally, mentally. He confessed to me the other day that he loved me. I responded that that, can't be so. That we haven't been dating long enough for him to have such strong feelings for me. He said that even if I don't believe him, that his feelings are real and that its better to be honest with how he feels than to hold back and to have never said anything at all. He went on to say that if I could actually see what he was thinking/feeling that I'd be able to understand how he feels about me.

 

We were talking yesterday and he told me that he doesn't even know why he is so attracted to me. He's talked about helping me with things and just wanting to be the person I go to when I need help..etc.

 

Can a guy actually fall for someone this quickly? I mean I've never had a guy just fall head over heals for me the way he has? I mean I like him a lot but I don't feel as strongly for him. I would like to at some point. But is this possible, has any of you guys fallen for a girl this quickly before?

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Anything is possible. I imagine he could. He may habe found something that simply out of this world clicked.

 

It may only grow with time. I believe it can be possible, though a long lasting love is built over time.

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Anything is possible. I imagine he could. He may habe found something that simply out of this world clicked.

 

It may only grow with time. I believe it can be possible, though a long lasting love is built over time.

 

I think he's full of it...

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BIG RED FLAG! One of the signs of someone with a severe personality disorder such as NPD, BPD and also some sociopaths is...making a declaration of love within weeks of starting anew relationship. When you add that he wants you to rely on him, it sounds like he's looking for someone who is codependent...it's worrying. Sorry.

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BIG RED FLAG! One of the signs of someone with a severe personality disorder such as NPD, BPD and also some sociopaths is...making a declaration of love within weeks of starting anew relationship. When you add that he wants you to rely on him, it sounds like he's looking for someone who is codependent...it's worrying. Sorry.

 

Hmm... I think he's an aggressive kind of guy... I'M naturally aggressive. But I don't think he's crazy or has a personality disorder. I can see things like that in a man, from a mile away. He's more so the romantic type if anything. Dunno if I still believe his words, but he hasn't even in the slightest given off any red flags as for as that goes. He may be the clingy type, but that's all I've gotten from him so far. If anything else comes up I'll let you know. Thanks for your input. Even though I don't think this is the case with him, I will definitely keep what you've posted in mind.

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I believe that people are put here for a reason in exactly the spot you are now with who you know and who is in your life is there for a reason a season a short time or a long time.......who is to know the exact reason....but if someone is honest and says they have strong feelings for you...they are also there for a reason those feelings.....i developed really strong feelings for a guy i hardly know, it truthfully threw me......i dont know why they appeared......but whether thsoe feelings are here for a long time or a short time isnt up to me..........i cant deny what i honestly feel...i can control how i exhibit what i feel that's about it....even then sometimes its a struggle to not show what you feel

 

he has told you how he feels what really matters over all now...is how you feel about that.....and how you feel for him....deb

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Hmm... I think he's an aggressive kind of guy... I'M naturally aggressive. But I don't think he's crazy or has a personality disorder. I can see things like that in a man, from a mile away. He's more so the romantic type if anything. Dunno if I still believe his words, but he hasn't even in the slightest given off any red flags as for as that goes. He may be the clingy type, but that's all I've gotten from him so far. If anything else comes up I'll let you know. Thanks for your input. Even though I don't think this is the case with him, I will definitely keep what you've posted in mind.

 

 

Great, glad I'm wrong here :D

 

Just make sure you keep your friends and family and don't become dependent on him. If it's really love and you end up feeling the same way, then I wish you well.

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I believe that people are put here for a reason in exactly the spot you are now with who you know and who is in your life is there for a reason a season a short time or a long time.......who is to know the exact reason....but if someone is honest and says they have strong feelings for you...they are also there for a reason those feelings.....i developed really strong feelings for a guy i hardly know, it truthfully threw me......i dont know why they appeared......but whether thsoe feelings are here for a long time or a short time isnt up to me..........i cant deny what i honestly feel...i can control how i exhibit what i feel that's about it....even then sometimes its a struggle to not show what you feel

 

he has told you how he feels what really matters over all now...is how you feel about that.....and how you feel for him....deb

 

Interesting. I like him, a lot. But my feelings aren't as strong for him as his are for me. But that isn't to say they wont grow to become that way at some point. Right now I'm just enjoying the time we spend together. I think you are very right though. He may have come into my life for a specific purpose. Only time will tell...

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Great, glad I'm wrong here :D

 

Just make sure you keep your friends and family and don't become dependent on him. If it's really love and you end up feeling the same way, then I wish you well.

 

I hate depending on people. I'd much rather provide for myself than to let others do everything for me. So me becoming dependent on him will never happen. As for my friends and family I'm very close to my family and I have a few friends that I hang out with from time to time. But he's already expressed that I should definitely spend time with my family and friends. So I don't think that will be an issue either. Thanks again.

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I hate depending on people. I'd much rather provide for myself than to let others do everything for me. So me becoming dependent on him will never happen. As for my friends and family I'm very close to my family and I have a few friends that I hang out with from time to time. But he's already expressed that I should definitely spend time with my family and friends. So I don't think that will be an issue either. Thanks again.

 

Well that's a healthy sign. How do you feel about it all?

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Well that's a healthy sign. How do you feel about it all?

 

I feel he's a great guy. He's very open about his feelings. He holds nothing back, which is what I really like the most about him. He doesn't seem phased by the fact that I don't feel as strongly for him. He understands that I am still getting to know him and knows that my feelings for him may grow with time the more I get to know him. He does seem like a very emotionally healthy guy. He likes for us to talk and discuss things about life and the things going on around the world. Last night we talked for the longest about life and the possibility of life existing or life forms here coming from another planet. I really enjoy our conversations. We both like to have intellectual conversations. I am liking him more and more with each day.

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I feel he's a great guy. He's very open about his feelings. He holds nothing back, which is what I really like the most about him. He doesn't seem phased by the fact that I don't feel as strongly for him. He understands that I am still getting to know him and knows that my feelings for him may grow with time the more I get to know him. He does seem like a very emotionally healthy guy. He likes for us to talk and discuss things about life and the things going on around the world. Last night we talked for the longest about life and the possibility of life existing or life forms here coming from another planet. I really enjoy our conversations. We both like to have intellectual conversations. I am liking him more and more with each day.

 

Hey Lolita_Sky,

 

I think every person is different about the timing and the way they choose to initially express their LOVE for their partner. Be it a few months; a few weeks; a few days; or a few hours..... the sincerity of the love should not be judged simply upon the passage of time. What takes some people months or years to emotionally establish can be accomplished for others in days or even hours.

 

My thought for you is that I hope you move along at a speed that is comfortable for you and not try to change your thoughts and beliefs simply to align with him. It sounds like your communication is great so stay in the present and careful not to project out too far with a bunch of expectations.

 

Good LUCK

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Hey Lolita_Sky,

 

I think every person is different about the timing and the way they choose to initially express their LOVE for their partner. Be it a few months; a few weeks; a few days; or a few hours..... the sincerity of the love should not be judged simply upon the passage of time. What takes some people months or years to emotionally establish can be accomplished for others in days or even hours.

 

My thought for you is that I hope you move along at a speed that is comfortable for you and not try to change your thoughts and beliefs simply to align with him. It sounds like your communication is great so stay in the present and careful not to project out too far with a bunch of expectations.

 

Good LUCK

Thanks a lot for the advice. I'm definitely taking things one step at a time.
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