setsenia Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 So whenever my husband's birthday came around, I feel like I have to overcompensate for him, because his parents aren't alive (he's only 30). Our finances are starting to improve, but it's going to take some time to recover from our financial crisis we've experienced this year. Anyways, no one else gifts him other than me and due to the lack of funds, I feel really bad for at least not planning a party for him. Although, unfortunately I do not think most people can make it due to being out of town or people working weekends/nights. I wish I didn't feel this way each year, especially this year since it's the big 3-0.
Copelandsanity Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Does he care, though? Most guys - including myself - do not care whatsoever about getting gifts or having a party on their birthdays. I actually prefer that nobody recognize it altogether. My ex would always try to do something or get me something nice and it was completely unnecessary. If I were you, I would try to think of a meaningful and thoughtful gift, but wouldn't cost that much if finances are an issue for you. Something that took a lot of time or effort, but not money.
stillafool Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 I'm assuming your husband knows your financial situation at this time and probably doesn't want you to create debt for his birthday. Why not just tell him you want to do something big but can't afford it and cook his favorite meal served with his favorite drink. Give him a great ----job after dessert. 4
dichotomy Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 I'm assuming your husband knows your financial situation at this time and probably doesn't want you to create debt for his birthday. Why not just tell him you want to do something big but can't afford it and cook his favorite meal served with his favorite drink. Give him a great ----job after dessert. Ha ! As a husband thats what I though too.....after a good meal.....and while he is watching his favorite action film you picked up for him. 3
beatcuff Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 why do people always equate love with money? what does he want? i'm with the rest --- his favorite meal and a 'cozy' (his definition) night with his W. 1
standtall Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Most men don't care about their own birthdays or parties. A simple happy birthday is sufficient.
Author setsenia Posted October 25, 2013 Author Posted October 25, 2013 I guess I feel like a failed wife, because I cannot give him at least a movie and dinner out. I know he doesn't want a huge charade, in fact, he doesn't like being reminded of his age, because he's not happy about the lack of progress he has made career wise. So I went against the big birthday bash idea, although it was something I wanted, so I guess I assumed maybe he'd want the works also. But I think you all are right that he doesn't want a huge bash. I guess I think everyone deserves at least that much on their birthday. To me spending time together...a card and a simple gift (something I thought he could use and was in budget) with some cupcakes should suffice, but I guess my problem is feeling the need to overcompensate because his family doesn't do much for him.
2sure Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Make an Italian Love Cake. It's so much work,but doable , and such a romantic gesture. Look up Canolli cake, same difference
Sofie2013 Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 Something I did for my husband 25 birthdays. Money was tight since at the time and I didn’t have the money to buy anything. So what I did was as soon as he came home I made it all about him. I meet at to door with some lingerie and teased him throughout the dinner. After that I took him to the bedroom and blindfolded him and I did everything to him without saying one world I just did. It drove him crazy and he really liked. Till this day he still say it one of the best birthdays he ever had and it cost me anything just time and it was well worth it. Men are not that hard to please some good food and sex and their as happy as can be. If you don’t have any money just treat him like a king for a day and tell how much love and respect him.
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