jba10582 Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 So we had prior arranged to be “friends first”. We went on date had a good time, went to park, got lunch and then coffee at three different venues. We are having a good time laughing and having generally pleasant conversations throughout. I am basically just there having a decent time and trying to meet someone new. At the end of two of the venues she kind of hung around a little bit longer than normal in an awkward way. I know she was wanting a kiss or seeing if I was going to give her one. Instead, I gave her the “wtf are you doing” look twice, because the whole time I am thinking cool we’re going to be friends until that. I have the balls to kiss her, its not my first rodeo, but I think I may have made it awkward for her because I did not actually want too. I am not at all emotionally invested and honestly would like to actually make female friends who are cool to be around who don't need that extra validation at the end? Better way to frame something than a date? Should I just not give a crap and move on to someone new?
Author jba10582 Posted October 25, 2013 Author Posted October 25, 2013 (edited) Dating proilfe says friends first. The girl was was pretty. I am recently out of a very LTR and dating because I am not waiting around for ex anymore, its pointless. Small town dating is not good, can't wait to move out. Thanks in advance for the advice. Edited October 25, 2013 by jba10582
devilish innocent Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 "Friends first" is usually code for "I want to take things slow". She probably was just feeling a good vibe for you and wanted to send out the message that she liked you enough to kiss you. You didn't have to kiss her. It probably would have been better if you hadn't. You could have just said you had to get going and turned away. At this point, you could still tell her, "I realized after I got home that my feelings for you are more plutonic. I probably should avoid kissing you or asking you on a 'date' as I don't want to lead you on. If you still want to hang out as friends, though, I'd be happy to." That way things are clear. She can decide for herself whether she's okay with being just friends or not.
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