Herby Posted December 11, 2004 Posted December 11, 2004 OK, I Post the Second Date? topic yesterday. I am so in to this girl I met. But I didn't get a call back. So, the fear of rejection was sweeping in... I got a email from her today. Saying that she is not sure if my feelings are the same for her. Meaning that she is totally in to me too. The reason she didn't call me is because she has been gee-king on the recent cable Internet install. I don't mind sharing the what she said and please don't think I am bragging. "I didn't know how you were feeling about me, so I figured "why waste my time”. I thought you were a great catch, but I think that feelings have to be exactly mutual or things like this do NOT work out I want you to know that you are super cute, really fun & GOOD LUCK! * ) If you wanted to be friends, I could handle that too. We have a lot in common & I had a lot of fun with you last Saturday!!! Oh, by the way, thanks for the drinks, darts, pool, good conversation & EVERYTHING ELSE! OH, 1 last thing, you have the best LIPS & you kiss GREAT! " The funny thing about this it why does she think, the feelings are not mutual. Why else would I kiss her, call back on Sunday, say yes to hangout on Wednesday (but we didn't because her want to geek on Internet games) call her again on Wednesday ( she got my message!)...? I do things are happening too fast. I would like to take this slow. It seems every time I jump into a things like this it ends with a bang! Meaning too fast... I want to email her telling her I feel the EXACT same. But I am also don't want to fall in the Nice guy area. Meaning I want to appear a challenge. But it also, seems that I don't have to try with this girl.I really don't like playing the games of attraction. I think that people should just go with their thoughts, but I found out in the past that was not working for me. Because I was reading forms about dating... Such as Don Juan and Jeff Ross speed seduction I am very much interested in what Pocky and Alphamale(he seems to have been reading Ross and Don Juan) have to say...But please all others are welcome...
alphamale Posted December 11, 2004 Posted December 11, 2004 Originally posted by Herby I am very much interested in what Pocky and Alphamale(he seems to have been reading Ross and Don Juan) have to say...But please all others are welcome... This one is most likely doing the bait and switch on you. This is when you go out with someone and it is sorta so-so or you aren't into them then when they call you don't want to hurt their feelings so you say " oh yeah, i think you're great but it seems like you are not that into me so we really shouldn't go out again". I have used this a few times and had it used on me once or twice. A woman who really and truly likes you would NEVER say what she said. But, there is a small possibility I am wrong.
Herby Posted December 11, 2004 Posted December 11, 2004 alphamale, Are you saying that she means the oppiste of what she is saying. That she giving me the a nice brush off?
alphamale Posted December 11, 2004 Posted December 11, 2004 Originally posted by Herby alphamale, Are you saying that she means the oppiste of what she is saying. That she giving me the a nice brush off? sounds like it to me but I could be wrong. If you like a girl then would you say to her "well, you're just not into me that much so let's not see each other again"?
startingover1028 Posted December 11, 2004 Posted December 11, 2004 I don't know.... If it wasn't for that last bit about the great lips and good kissing, I'd have to agree with Alphmale. I actually think she may just be feeling you out. Sometimes it's easier for a girl to say, "Well, I guess you're not that into me" because she wants you to say... "Oh, but I AM" So, do what you will, but I would suggest you ask her out again and tell her how you feel.
alphamale Posted December 11, 2004 Posted December 11, 2004 Originally posted by startingover1028 So, do what you will, but I would suggest you ask her out again and tell her how you feel. Good advice, I would say the same but if the response is wishy washy or she beats around the bush then move on to the next girl.
Herby Posted December 11, 2004 Posted December 11, 2004 Should I just email her telling her I feel the for e.g. "You are a silly. You should of called be back. I wanted to do something with you this weekend, but it’s not too late. I am up for anything. Give me a call when you get this. I should be home. I need to do chores around the house, like cleaning, dishes, laundry and vacuum. Talk ya later. Name p.s. yes I feel the same." or just call her to setup a date....?
tokyo Posted December 11, 2004 Posted December 11, 2004 I totally disagree To me it looks as if she is insecure about what he wants and she is interested, but too shy to take things further. Why don´t you simply ask her? Both of you seem to be able to talk about your feelings without turning it into an awkward situation.
Herby Posted December 13, 2004 Posted December 13, 2004 Just want to let ya guys know that Kooky was right... I didn't email and just called and her voice mail pick up on third ring (I found out that she setups third ring and always has it on vibrate, she said. Plus I heard her friend complain out and it was on vibrate in the bar). Anyways, I just said that “you are silly, you should of called me I wanted to know if you want to go out this weekend, its not too late, give me, I’ll tell you what’s up…” We had our second date. We went to the movies, dinner and drinks. We also played some pool and darts are the bar. I paid for movies and drinks, but she paid for the dinner. I treated her like a lady by opening and the closing the car door. After the third time, she opens my lock for my door. She's a keeper... I found out that reason she wrote the email, was she didn't think I was as interested as she is in me. She expected me to call more often and to tell her sweet nothings (in a matter of speaking). I just told her that she was acting silly. It’s was only the first date/week. I didn't say that I feel the same. I thought I would just let my actions speak for them selves. Any ways we spend Sunday night together at her place and watch a movie too. She gave a back rub and we ended up making out. After about an hour of that… She said that you "you make me want you". I said, “I had to go, we both have to get to bed and go work totomorrow” She said, “You started it…” I just laugh and told her to get up, (she was on top). She still didn’t… So, I just let her stay a little longer and said “Ok, I gotta go” and so I left
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