Nomnom Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 First time poster, so this may be a bit lengthy. I'm after advice based on what I can tell you. I met a girl that I worked with roughly 3 years ago, I was a single male for around 5 years, and not really interested in dating, anyhow, we got together, and I found out she had kids, which scared me, because I have no kids. But despite that, I decided I would stick with it, try something new and see where it went. So we're at the 2 1/2-3 year mark and I haven't been the best boyfriend, I've got a slight cocky attitude, I'm a bit bossy when I don't realize that I am, and I have a tendency to make fun of things involving her appearance, even though I was only joking and still thought she was beautiful. I never spent a lot of time with her kids, and only really got along with the youngest one. After all this time I'm getting along with the other two as well. Anyways, we recently had a very intense argument, I did some screaming, she did some, and she says that she isn't happy, and that she wants to move out soon. She says she doesn't feel the same about me like she used to. Naturally like most men do, I made a tremendous amount of mistakes over these past few years, and now that I'm teetering on losing her, and losing her kids, I don't want to. I don't want her to leave, I don't want her kids to leave, and now I've woke up and really discovered exactly how much I love her and this family we've built. She still says she doesn't believe she could love me again, no matter how hard I try. There's so much going wrong, I think after that I may have started to smother her, I've told her I'd do anything for her and the kids, I can't live without them, I couldn't stand the thought of being without them. So on and so forth, I've started calling her pet names more, like babe, baby, I've started doing more for her, I've cleaned more, helped her more, told her I'd get a better job. She still insists that she doesn't think anything can change how she feels, or make her love me again. There's also another man at our work who tends to talk to her quite often, and for lengthy periods of time, that really makes me nervous. I've asked about it, and she says it's nothing. They only talk there, and only a couple times a week, so I don't believe there's anything there, but with us on the verge of a possible breakup it worries me. Is it possible to make her love me again? If so, is there any advice anyone could give me? I'm trying my hardest, I've even turned to God to help me through this. I don't think I could handle losing her. I wouldn't be able to live in this area anymore for fear of seeing her and being destroyed if she had another man after we spent so long building our family together. I've since stopped doing the things that bother her, and started complimenting her and what not, but I don't wanna come off too strongly. Anyone have a similar situation? I know someone will say "let it go and move on" but I don't want to. If I can save this, then I need to. I need her and the kids. I love them too much.
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