xbabycakes Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Hello! I was on here at the beginning of the year because me and my ex of 3 years had split and I was beyond devastated, but slowly i got over him and the space made me see the bigger picture and I realized he wasn't as great as I thought and the bad outweighed the good and I became happier without him and got my social life and friends back! I was finally happy again! Then.... one evening when I was fully over my ex I met this guy, he was lovely and when he smiled I just melted, but I didn't think I had a chance but he laughed & joked with me and we got along well and met (we have the same social group) about 6 - 7 times when I said did he want to come over and watch a movie or something and he jumped at the chance and we had a lovely evening and he kept putting his arm around me and I was made up when he kissed me at the end of the night! And from then we were pretty much inseparable and after 2 weeks he asked me out officially , it was great! Then as I started liking him more my insecurities started to kick in and if he got a text from a girl id ask who it was or went out for the night I would ask were he went and he got annoyed about this and accused me of not trusting him. A couple of months in we started arguing about silly things but we are both stubborn so the arguments started happening often and he would often start silly arguments maybe due to his trust issues (he had been treated really badly in a past relationship) but he had told me he had learnt to trust me which he hadnt anyone for years, and I trust him as I knew he hated cheating and he was just so lovely! But last night he broke up with me becouse he said we argue too much but we can still be friends. I no it was only 5 months but we done alot together and I really really like him, and I no he does me too so I just want to work this out somehow but he just says there will be an argument again a couple days down the line, but Im really willing to try but I just dont no what too do now, any advice? thanks
thompkevin Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Hey, The best thing you can do right now is stay away from him and work on yourself. Like you said, it was your insecurities that started causing issues in the relationship. Even if you give it another try, those insecurities are going to creep in again. My suggestion is you start working on your issues immediately. If he sees you trying to make changes, he will probably want to give it another chance, and even if he doesn't, at least you won't have the same problems in your next relationship.
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