irc333 Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 I have been hearing that the Online dating venue is geared towards those who have busy schedules. Whether it be working more than an unusual number of hours at work (if this where the case I'd probably avoid working said hours or find another job that would require me to work the basic 40). Takinng kids to soccer, ballet, karate, etc. (which personally, I don't think peoples kids should be signed up for umpteen extracurricular activities) Anyhow, if it's geared for "the busy" then in all actuality, when they do meet someone from online, how are they expected to even have time for THAT person, too? Lately, I've been seeing online dating profiles that say, "I work X amount of hours at work and volunteering and other "fun" activities, so he must understand that". Basically, you'll play second fiddle even to his poker night with the boys or her Yoga night at the Yoga center or her night on the town with her friends. I have a friend of mine that's got the hots for this woman, he's been talking to her a lot on the phone or texting, but never actually "sealed the deal" with her. He claims to be busy with a lot of things. Like there's some things around the home that need fixing, his Meetup events, etc. I'd personally give up a Meetup event to go on a date. Dude's strange. I think he's just not into her or making excuses...I've met the woman, you'd have to be crazy NOT to go out with her. lol
antonio1149 Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 I have been hearing that the Online dating venue is geared towards those who have busy schedules. Whether it be working more than an unusual number of hours at work (if this where the case I'd probably avoid working said hours or find another job that would require me to work the basic 40). Takinng kids to soccer, ballet, karate, etc. (which personally, I don't think peoples kids should be signed up for umpteen extracurricular activities) Anyhow, if it's geared for "the busy" then in all actuality, when they do meet someone from online, how are they expected to even have time for THAT person, too? Lately, I've been seeing online dating profiles that say, "I work X amount of hours at work and volunteering and other "fun" activities, so he must understand that". Basically, you'll play second fiddle even to his poker night with the boys or her Yoga night at the Yoga center or her night on the town with her friends. I have a friend of mine that's got the hots for this woman, he's been talking to her a lot on the phone or texting, but never actually "sealed the deal" with her. He claims to be busy with a lot of things. Like there's some things around the home that need fixing, his Meetup events, etc. I'd personally give up a Meetup event to go on a date. Dude's strange. I think he's just not into her or making excuses...I've met the woman, you'd have to be crazy NOT to go out with her. lol People like to look busy in their profiles because those who have various interests and "living life to the fullest" are more attractive than those who aren't. Presumably, someone who is willing to go to the effort to do online dating is willing to make the time should the right person come along.
CarrieT Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 I took to online dating because I wasn't meeting anyone in the Real World. The guy I met was pretty busy (sat on the board of several non-profits, kids 50% of the time, sang in two choirs, etc.). In many cases, he was doing these things in hopes of meeting people -- as was I -- but it didn't work. When we started dating, he scaled back his activities -- as did I -- to spend more time together. Many of us are/were busy because we aren't in a relationship and we use our busy lives to fill the emptiness. And by indicating that we aren't sitting around, waiting for someone to fill our lives for us, we can show that we are capable of having a fulfilling life. 1
odin673 Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 People like to look busy in their profiles because those who have various interests and "living life to the fullest" are more attractive than those who aren't. Presumably, someone who is willing to go to the effort to do online dating is willing to make the time should the right person come along. This. Most people lead others to believe that they are way busier than they are because being "idle" is perceived to be a loser trait. It's all just an illusion most of the time.
Author irc333 Posted October 25, 2013 Author Posted October 25, 2013 This. Most people lead others to believe that they are way busier than they are because being "idle" is perceived to be a loser trait. It's all just an illusion most of the time. Right, that's why when you see that one profile pic of them in a tandem sky dive, it gives the illusion of how busy they are, but chances are they'd probably not do the skydive again. lol
ponchsox Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 I just got out of a 1 1/2 year relationship with a single mom I met online. I will never date a single mom again. Talk about being to busy. And miserable.
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