rumbleseat Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 If you are a bs, did your ws use a excuse for cheating that was pretty difficult for you to swallow?
Latte Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 If you are a bs, did your ws use a excuse for cheating that was pretty difficult for you to swallow? What he told me once I found out: "She seduced me, it was too hard for me to resist. I couldn't help myself, it was just for the sex" (I find this difficult to swallow, for during our marriage there were men who used to seduce me and I had no problem resisting) What he told her about me: "We don't have sex anymore." (we were, even during my pregnancy) "We don't talk any more" (we were) "I can't relate to her these days the way I can with you." How can these be excuses when they are lies.
PoopHappens Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 I was so lonely....when you were sick and could barely move or do the things you used to just because you were racked in pain, every waking (and sleeping) moment, and couldn't work or properly care for yourself. Where all you wanted to do is spend your time trying to figure out how to get better... I got pretty sick at one time and wasn't always there mentally, pain has a way of distracting a person. She said some very nasty things to me along with the A. It was a very dark period in my life.
underwater2010 Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 We were living as roommates. Reasons why it was not true (to me): 1. I never screwed any of my roommates, even those of the opposite sex. 2. If my roommate could not pay their fair share, I certainly would have covered their slack financially without kicking them out. 3. I wouldn't have exhausted myself for their entertainment. 4. I wouldn't have created kids with a roommate. 5. I wouldn't cook, clean or do my roommates laundry. His reason why we were: 1. He never got to wake up with me in his arms. 2. Most ILYs took place in passing between jobs. 3. Sex was often over quick (much to my disappointment). Yeah I could see his side, but I wasn't exactly looking through rose colored glasses either....and I was faithful!!!! 1
jnel921 Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 There is no excuse for cheating. That in itself is a tough enough pill to swallow. Everything else is unacceptable.... 4
road Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 There is no excuse for cheating. That in itself is a tough enough pill to swallow. Everything else is unacceptable.... There are as many excuses as there can be thought of. The reason is that they wanted extra action. With they thought they were to smart to get caught.
Raena Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 He took a job working nights 7 days a week while I work days, then told her that we were drifting apart, never talked and never had sex anymore. That was his excuse. That I didn't pay enough attention to him. Not sure how I was supposed to when he wasn't ever here and wouldn't answer his phone. Then he said that I didn't pay any attention to him when his mother died. He said that I told him once that if he ever needed to talk that I would be there for him. This is after listening to him rant and rave for 11 years about what a psychotic witch his mother was, how he couldn't stand to be in her presence and all the awful things she did to him when he was a kid. He came back from going home for her funeral and acted like nothing was wrong. Didn't say anything to me or about her. Didn't even seem upset. What was I supposed to do... keep harassing him about it? I gave him his space and told him I was there for him when he needed it. Isn't that what you are supposed to do? I don't know. Seems to me like he was looking for a way to blame me for his infidelity. Apparently me asking him repeatedly to talk to me and constantly trying to make plans for things for us to do when we did have time for each other wasn't good enough. Oh yeah... I forgot, he claims the fact that I played online RPG's like LOTRO was to blame too. Because me playing those games when he wasn't home or was sleeping on the couch was an awful thing to do. The truth of the matter is, he was so caught up in the "thrill of the chase" that he didn't stop to think about what it would do to our family or future together. Now that the truth is out, he is full of apologies and "I don't know what's wrong with me"'s.
Betrayed&Stayed Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 (edited) If you are a bs, did your ws use a excuse for cheating that was pretty difficult for you to swallow? Some snippets from my WW: "I never got along with your parents" (I don't get along with them either) "I thought we could be friends" (No, you were dating but not calling it dating) "I just wanted to have fun and go out and do something" (How about having fun with girlfriends, and not have it involve another man's penis?) "I missed the youthfulness of the time when we were dating, the times when we had less responsibility." (Yeah, don't we all?) As she was out having "fun" with her new boyfriend, I became the boring responsible adult. I handled all of the boring stuff that young couples have to deal with: money/banking, bills, insurance, retirement plan, home maintenance, etc. According to her I became too pragmatic and not spontaneous enough. Edited October 27, 2013 by Betrayed&Stayed
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