Girl throws curveball after sleeping together

[Levi32]

So I met this amazing free spirited girl at a wedding a couple weeks ago. I was not a guest but working there. We really hit it off by finishing each others sentences and she told be she had been watching me all day and thought I was cute. So when a photographer was taking her pic with some people and he said "kiss each other" she said "I want to do that with him" pointing at me, so I go over and make out with her in front of everyone. She said all her friends thought we were going to have sex that night. I got her # and we chat and connect on so many levels. I even get her off on the phone one night. So she lives like 4hrs away at the beach but we make plans to meet and she tells me she has never been this excited in a long time to see someone. We talk about sex and she implys that it should happen when I come to see her. So on the way there she texts me to tell me she's on her period. I tell her that's fine and that I just want to spend time together. So we have an amazing time going down to her fav private spots on the beach at night. Then we go back to her place and she takesmy clothes off telling me how much she wants to please me and how sexy my eyes are and etc... I stay hard all night, she tried but could finish me, I did that on my own but not after I started rubbing her and going down just on her clit. Then she grinded on me for a couple hours orgasing multiple times before I finished myself later. So she said I was amazing. Then we cuddled and spooned all night long. When I would pull away she would pull me back in. But in the morning before I goto leave I ask if I can come to see her again soon and she hugs me then kisses me with closed lips and says" I don't know how to say this but I just got out if a relationship and don't want anything serious, I just want to enjoy spending time with people" so I say ok and leave then I text her a funny text tonight and she responds lol and such but has been quiet now. I wonder is there a chance to see her again? It really was an amazing night and hot and heavy all night long. I wonder if she wanted me to penetrate her even though she was on her period? I guess I am going to not text her for a while and hope we can meet again.

[ascendotum]

I don't think anything will come of this with her comment.."don't want anything serious, I just want to enjoy spending time with people". You said she is free spirited and chances are you will just be one of numerous guys she hooks up with for how ever long it is before she wants a bf again. It is not exactly easy to have a relationship with someone where there is a 8hr round trip each time, though maybe you just want a longer fling out of this since you really dig her. Seemed things went okay with the sex considering. If she had not been on her period, then chances are you would have made more of impression on her when it came to sex, and maybe got her talking about the next time you two get together. You wont know for sure, but I don't fancy your chances of seeing her again, but stay in touch but not too soon. Good luck.

[Kate9292]

I think she likes you and wants to spend time with you, but if you want to, you have to keep in mind there might be other people in the picture.

 

If your fine with that, go ahead.

[Ninjainpajamas]

Don't get too wrapped into this girl, she's a pistol and does this sort of thing every once in a while with men. If you come running after her she'll either scatter like a roach with the light on or feel like you're coming on too strong, she's best left with someone emotional unavailable...if that's you and you're just trying to "conquer" this (you don't have to clarify that here) then just play off her as normal and she'll probably reengage you, otherwise she's probably bedding someone else by then...you could have penetrated her by the way.

[Levi32]

So what's the chances of us meeting again or could she had felt feelings for me but is scared? After the one funny text I sent I am going to not send anymore for a while. Should I wait until she sends me a text again or after so long reengage her? I think I made a to good of a impression on her to forget about me. I enjoyed the experience enough to let her be free to see other people if that means I could meet up with her again. She told me I am a really good conversationalist and that she just couldn't stop wanting to text me before and there are mostly old guys where she lives so hopefully she will break down and reengage me again.

[NoMoreJerks]

She's emotionally unavailable. Probably grieving the loss of her previous relationship/bf. Maybe he even cheated on her, who knows. She might have trust issues as a result. Who knows. Whatever the reason for it, she is emotionally unavailable. That's all you need to know. I am like this at the moment, too. The difference though is that I don't pull back if a guy shows me adequate levels of interest and respect -- but I will pull back at the slightest hint of a red flag that reminds me of my ex. But at the same time, I don't think I am willing to do anything serious at this point. I kinda find the current state of being single more comfortable than trying to engage with a man, especially most men who aren't even interested in a relationship with me, just banging me once (or turning me into their f*ck buddy) because I am pretty and men would feel an ego boost if they can conquer me.

 

If you're looking for a relationship, leave her be. This will never work out. Unless and until she processes the loss and becomes emotionally available once more. Which could take years.

[ponchsox]

Tell her to throw a fastball next time.

[EasyHeart]

She's rebounding.

 

If you want to have fun with her, go ahead. But she told you right up front that she doesn't want a relationship, so don't expect one. People will usually tell you who they are. The problem is that a lot of the time, we don't want to listen so we make up stuff in our heads to try to turn them into the fantasy we want them to be.

 

She doesn't want to date you. She might want to screw you again. The more you act like a boyfriend, the more she will run away. the more you act like you don't care, the more likely she will to come back for more. But understand: She will never, ever be your girlfriend. Your best case scenario is a few nights of sex.

[ponchsox]

Expect to end up hurt. She's emotionally unavailable, most likely from her previous relationship. Women who are jaded are looking for someone to stick around and make them feel good but don't have an ounce of love to give back. They are nothing more than rebound FWB.

[deathandtaxes]

Why didn't you penetrate? Saying she's on her period is just a head's up. A warning that things could get a little messy. I've known some women that think it's too messy to have sex while they're on their period. And I've known some that are seriously horny on their period and want it bad.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

If this were just logic, I would think you should just put her out of your mind, and then anticipate that she would contact you at some point for round two, if indeed she wants that.

 

In the real world, however, you are going to try that for four days, or six days, and then be unable to resist initiating some random communication that will throw her off the scent for good.

[Assasda]

I think you could have a good time with this girl.

As long as its nothing serious too quick.

 

Just go out hand have fun with her again

[Levi32]

She started texting me again non stop. To the guy that said I was only in it for sex you are totally wrong. I only talked about the sexual part to show that I did everything for her other than full on intercourse because of her period. I think the two things standing in the way are distance and any reminder of her ex. I live next to a college and my jobs make women very available but I really like this girl because she is so similar and makes me feel comfortable. I will probably get hurt in the long run but I would like to see her again even if it's nothing serious.