LeXii Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 A mutual friend is asking me to re-add my ex on Facebook because she wants us to be together. I miss him a lot, I don't want to put myself through the heartbreak again. I've told her no but I'm really tempted to do it. Can someone help me
aybc123 Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Not going to be able to give advice without knowing the details of the breakup. Who broke up with who, how long you were together, why you broke up, how long it has been what has communication been like since then etc.
ponchsox Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Why would you friend an ex on Facebook because someone else wants you to be together? 1
Author LeXii Posted October 25, 2013 Author Posted October 25, 2013 Sorry, we were together for three years and he broke up with me two months ago. I've been no contact for about a week think and I blocked him on Facebook even though he wanted to be friends (I just couldn't do it). My friend knows how much I love him and she's been talking to him too. Idk what he's telling her but she's begging me to re-add him and she says she'll explain the details later. So basically I don't know much about what's going on except that I don't want to give myself false hope.
ponchsox Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Sorry, we were together for three years and he broke up with me two months ago. I've been no contact for about a week think and I blocked him on Facebook even though he wanted to be friends (I just couldn't do it). My friend knows how much I love him and she's been talking to him too. Idk what he's telling her but she's begging me to re-add him and she says she'll explain the details later. So basically I don't know much about what's going on except that I don't want to give myself false hope. Do what YOU want to do, not what someone tells you. 2
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 A mutual friend is asking me to re-add my ex on Facebook because she wants us to be together. I miss him a lot, I don't want to put myself through the heartbreak again. I've told her no but I'm really tempted to do it. Can someone help me Your friend is a moron to ask you to do such a thing. Not a good friend at all there. "She'll explain the details later??" WTF is that? What are you guys in HS? Dont add him. If he wants to talk to you, then he will. A stupid social media add isnt going to do s***. Social Media is killing our society. I swear to god its awful. 4
aybc123 Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Sorry, we were together for three years and he broke up with me two months ago. I've been no contact for about a week think and I blocked him on Facebook even though he wanted to be friends (I just couldn't do it). My friend knows how much I love him and she's been talking to him too. Idk what he's telling her but she's begging me to re-add him and she says she'll explain the details later. So basically I don't know much about what's going on except that I don't want to give myself false hope. Why did he break up with you? Also honestly cant you just call him or text him to meet up and talk about it? it sounds like he may have realised he made a mistake but hashing things out over Facebook probably isnt a great way to fix a relationship.
melell Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Don't do it. I sure as hell wouldn't want to see what my ex is up to. Simple out of sight, out of mind. 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 why did he break up with you? Also honestly cant you just call him or text him to meet up and talk about it? it sounds like he may have realised he made a mistake but hashing things out over facebook probably isnt a great way to fix a relationship. no no no 1000x no. 1
Author LeXii Posted October 25, 2013 Author Posted October 25, 2013 Honestly I'm super tempted to re-add him. I just need someone to tell me why that's not a good idea, that breaking NC is BAD and if I re-add my ex I'm going to go to heartbreak hell for letting myself think he really does miss me. And if I don't do it I'll get free lollipops and cotton candy.
ponchsox Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Honestly I'm super tempted to re-add him. I just need someone to tell me why that's not a good idea, that breaking NC is BAD and if I re-add my ex I'm going to go to heartbreak hell for letting myself think he really does miss me. And if I don't do it I'll get free lollipops and cotton candy. You said yourself what will happen. If you add him, it's going to set you back and you will end up unfree ding him and starting NC all over again.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Honestly I'm super tempted to re-add him. I just need someone to tell me why that's not a good idea, that breaking NC is BAD and if I re-add my ex I'm going to go to heartbreak hell for letting myself think he really does miss me. And if I don't do it I'll get free lollipops and cotton candy. We are telling you its a bad idea lol. Probably one of the worst ideas. Why in the world would you WANT to see what he is doing? He could post a picture of him with an arm around a lady (even just friendly) and you will flip s*** (as most of us would). It will put you into this huge depression and make you overthink for weeks. Are the friends? Are they possibly dating? Then they write a status...IS IT ABOUT ME? WHO IS IT ABOUT?? The cycle will continue to get worse. Just save yourself the time NOW rather than later. TRUST ME.....if he wanted to get back with you, he will let you know I ASSURE you. 1
Author LeXii Posted October 25, 2013 Author Posted October 25, 2013 You guys are the best. I'm probably going to spend the next day or two crying my eyes out but it'll be worth it because I'm going to move on and eventually I won't think twice about re-adding him, or txting him or calling him or anything, I'll be fine without him. He could bang every girl on his Facebook wall and I won't even care to know about it. Trying to keep a positive attitude 2
aybc123 Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Hang on what the hell guys, NC is great if a relationship is over but OP clearly hasn't moved on yet and from what her friend is saying her ex may have realised he has made a huge mistake in the last couple of months, there's a thread 2 below this one where the OP is a guy who has realised exactly this. OP just find out what your friend is talking about and make a judgement from that. If she says he wants to get back together then tell her to let him know that if he wants that then he's going to have to grow up and talk to you himself rather than relaying messages.
LuvsTrucks2 Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Like many other posters said, no, don't do it. It won't be a good thing for you to know what he is up to.
Fufu Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 A mutual friend is asking me to re-add my ex on Facebook because she wants us to be together. I miss him a lot, I don't want to put myself through the heartbreak again. I've told her no but I'm really tempted to do it. Can someone help me The mutual friends wants your ex and you to get back together. but it is not your ex wanted to be with you again. I hope you see the difference.
headinthecloud Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Don't do it!! It will set you back to day 1 again. Be strong and move forward. Try to accept that it's over move on. If he wanted to be friends with you he would add you. Do not listen to your friends.
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