tunaluna Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 I am just curious on what is considered high in the adult world.. I am only 19 so I don't have what I considered a high number. Any-who, what do you consider to be high, normal and low?
Sanman Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 Low - anyone who has slept with less people than me. Normal - anyone that has slept with the same number of people as I have. High - anyone who has slept with more people than me. Slut/player - anyone that has slept with A LOT more people than me. No matter the numbers anyone throws out, this is as close to accurate as you will get. Things like this are subjective. 11
acrosstheuniverse Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 It's all subjective. My last boyfriend had slept with nearly triple digits of women, while I was on less than 10. My current boyfriend? I've slept with 50% more people than him. I really couldn't care less. It's just sex. I have never and would never lie about my 'number' as there's no shame in taking control of your own sexual desires, as long as you're open and honest with all participants. 3
theothersully Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 It's just a number. I don't consider it or ask any girls about it. If they are STI free, their number is low enough for me!
melell Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 I don't know. But I had slept with 3. My ex revealed to me after 7 years together that he had slept with over 50. That seems extremely high to me. Especially because we started seeing each other at 18. It is all relative I guess
Tayla Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Usually if its more then one partner in the bed, its too many! I like my covers without fighting over them . Asking a General how many battles he has been in doesn't tell you how many he won. Think about it next time you ask a question such has been posed. 2
MissBee Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 I would be disturbed if a man slept with 100s of women, even 50 is a lot in my book. I like a more discriminate man personally. Most of the men I've been with tended to be relationship types who usually had a steady gf and were serially monogamous, so I can't imagine they really had sex with that many people, although I have never asked any man to give me a figure so I don't know for sure, but based on their relationship and personality style they weren't the type to just be racking up sex partners. 2
CarrieT Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 I stopped counting at 300. I have friends who are in the 1,000s. My fiancé had probably had less than 10. We are all 50-ish so counting is not something we do anymore or matters.
Dreamworld Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 I am just curious on what is considered high in the adult world.. I am only 19 so I don't have what I considered a high number. Any-who, what do you consider to be high, normal and low? I think it's subjective. I've slept with 7 guys over the period of my life but I usually sleep with guys when it's pretty serious. Two of the seven were casual. (I am 33). For me, the 10-20 ish range seems normal.
Dreamworld Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 I stopped counting at 300. I have friends who are in the 1,000s. My fiancé had probably had less than 10. We are all 50-ish so counting is not something we do anymore or matters. OMG are you serious? Out of pure curiosity how often would you be having sex to reach those numbers? And of course how old you are would affect the calculations too..mind boggling!
Mariposa10 Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 I don't know. But I had slept with 3. My ex revealed to me after 7 years together that he had slept with over 50. That seems extremely high to me. Especially because we started seeing each other at 18. It is all relative I guess He slept with 50 women while he was in a relationship with you? 1
Grumpybutfun Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 IMHO- Sex is a subject in which it is no one's business how many people you have slept with. The only thing that matters is if you take care of your health and are tested regularly. Being male or female shouldn't even enter the equation and if it is does, you are judging people on antiquated ideologies. I prefer quality to quantity but it makes me livid to see sl^t shaming for women or atta boys for men. Don't kiss and tell. Respect yourself and others, and try not to be one of those people who think that the number of sexual experiences define you. Enjoy life, Grumps 5
man_in_the_box Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 There are people with high numbers who are happy with their partner count. Similarly there are people with low numbers who are happy with their decision to keep it low. However there are also those that regret they have high numbers. And those that wish they had more numbers. Then there are people who take partner count into account when choosing their own partner - that's up to the individual choice. Unfortunately there are also those who feel entitled to scrutinize others for their choice to have high or low numbers which is pretty pathetic.
Kate9292 Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 (edited) I'm 21 and had 12 sexual partners (including 3 bfs and one fwb). I've been called a slut quite a lot. Funny enough, all the guys who called me a slut tried to hook up with me first then got mad that I wasn't into it. That's dumb - just because I like sex, doesn't mean everyone is entitled to have a shot with me. OP, I wouldn't get into a relationship with a girl that is in the double digits. She should respect herself more than that. That's dumb too. Just because you think number is high, doesn't mean a woman doesn't respect herself. She could very well be selective, but just so many men were attracted to her that she had plenty to choose from. Besides, double digits? Are you kidding me? I was sexually active since 16. I'm 21, so it's been 5 years. 12 partners/5 years = 2,4 partner/year. So one every 5 months or so. You call that a lot? I have friends who had much more... Edited October 25, 2013 by Kate9292 2
theothersully Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Very much agree with Kate. There is not much I dislike more that when a girl is called a slut. What, she's penalized for exploring and acknowledging her own sexuality?? That word should be left to the dark ages when women had to wait in castle towers and whatever. Sex is something to be celebrated, not attacked. Seems girls get called sluts when they are attacked by other girls, or when some guy wishes he could get some, but didn't. I have probably said this before, but I'll take a "slut" over an inexperienced girl any day of the week. 1
madjac74 Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 I bet you have the choice every day of the week.
Camaro Guy Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Yeah, but imagine this... CarrieT would be fantastic because she knows what she's doing. Low numbers means low skills. Just because a girl has a low number doesn't mean she will be bad in bed. And people can learn. 3
ConstantVoyager Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 The right number is whatever the person in question feels is right. It kind of boggles my mind that someone would reject a partner because they were in the double digits. Unless you're in a very long marriage or relationship, it's pretty hard not to get into the double digits at some point. I skip this problem entirely by not asking my partners and not telling. The information does nothing to enhance the relationship.
samsungxoxo Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Anyone hitting the double-digits is too much for me. But then again, this is coming from a very low-count woman of 1. I'm sure for CarrieT, that wouldn't be too much but too little.
man_in_the_box Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Just because a girl has a low number doesn't mean she will be bad in bed. And people can learn. Yeah, agreed. Yeah, but imagine this... CarrieT would be fantastic because she knows what she's doing. Low numbers means low skills. Wtf dude? You protest people being named sluts and then directly afterwards you start generalizing people with low numbers by saying they have no skills? Nice hipocrisy. Very much agree with Kate. There is not much I dislike more that when a girl is called a slut. What, she's penalized for exploring and acknowledging her own sexuality??
samsungxoxo Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 What I dislike is those hypocrites that feel like they fully deserve a moral-compass woman of low-count while they are already in the 20-30's number but refuse to form a relationship with a woman that had a similar past to them. If that particular low-count woman is indeed not at all comfortable with his past, he will probably come up with the lines of ''Come on, past is past; what's important is the present'' but if a woman has a similar past he'll quickly turn into a moral police officer and say ''Can't turn a sloot into housewife, she's damaged goods with no hope for a relationship at all''. I thought past was past. 3
acrosstheuniverse Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 (edited) It's fascinating to me how some people equate number of sexual partners with self-respect. I've slept with 15 guys, three of them were long-term relationships, another was serious, another was a dude I was in a six-month open relationship with, the rest were all F buddies or short term things that didn't work out (and one fling). I only ever sleep with guys I know well already as friends, sleeping with a stranger does nothing for me, but to each their own. Every time I had a new partner, I weighed it up. I decided I wanted to get laid and fancied them, and it was mutual. I had an awesome time, I enjoyed the sex, had no regrets, all was well. When I'm in a relationship I very much enjoy being monogamous and belonging to one person, I love fidelity. But I fail to see how having fifteen guys dicks in me over the course of eight years is somehow not respecting myself. It's just sex, it's just bodies, I took full control in all of these circumstances, and I loved it. 17 - 4 month relationship 17 - 8 month relationship 18 - first and last 'fling' with a new guy 18-22 - four year relationship 22-22 - six month open relationship 22 - 24 - two year relationship 24 - 25 - bad breakup, went wild, slept with maybe... five or six? Guys over the course of six months. 25 - now - new relationship. I'd be surprised if that's really so atypical of a lot of people in their twenties, you try relationships and they don't work out. You go crazy after a breakup before the next relationship. You can never decrease your number, it's only ever going to get higher. I'm only 25, if this relationship doesn't work out am I supposed to wait until I find somebody I can somehow guarantee is going to be the last partner I ever have before I have sex? Hell no. I love sex, I like being naked, I like to please somebody, I like to explore every nook and cranny of sexuality in existence and do as much as possible. I really enjoy my sexuality. It's fine to desire a partner with a lower number, maybe you have some religious stuff going on or you are a jealous partner. It's not fine to think that people who are promiscuous have low self respect unless you think your own version of respect is applicable to every other member of the human race! Edited November 6, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
samsungxoxo Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 It's fine to desire a partner with a lower number, maybe you have some religious stuff going on or you are a jealous partner.If fine for a man to demand Ms Low-Count Woman that if he's is that in return.
CarrieT Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 (edited) OMG are you serious? Out of pure curiosity how often would you be having sex to reach those numbers? And of course how old you are would affect the calculations too..mind boggling! I was married at 20 and my then-husband and I were swingers with an open marriage. At one point, we attended a weekend orgy that had somewhere between 35 and 50 "participants." The bulk of my high number occurred during my brief, five-year marriage and that was over 25 years ago as I am almost 50 now. My divorce came about when I came home from work early one day and found my now ExH having sex with another man without protection. Not only was he hiding a secret gay life, but he was putting my own health at risk. This was the late 80s and the beginning of the AIDS scare. The fact that I never caught a disease is still pretty astonishing. Edited November 6, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
theothersully Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Yeah, agreed. Wtf dude? You protest people being named sluts and then directly afterwards you start generalizing people with low numbers by saying they have no skills? Nice hipocrisy. Beg to differ. I don't see any hypocrisy. If you've done something more often, odds are you are better at it than someone with no practice. That's a generalization, not hypocrisy. Of course there is the low count that still has plenty of experience, but the CarrieT's of the world would blow your mind in most cases. That's a positive comment, not a negative one.
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