acrosstheuniverse Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 I was just watching a show on UK TV called 'My crazy new Jamaican life', and there was this British woman on there who at aged 25 had three kids with her Jamaican boyfriend, when she found out that he had got another woman pregnant; he told her that now, as baby mothers, they were both equal in his eyes. Her reactions as they progressed through the show was fascinating, and very sad to see. It began with 'we have the most amazing relationship' to 'I know I can't expect him to stay faithful to me, I just ask that he keeps it discrete' (apparently infidelity is almost expected from men in the Jamaican culture). Then it transcends into 'I just found out he has got another woman pregnant and I'm really upset' to 'well, we're both his priorities equally now'. She tried 'confronting' him at one point, to which he just said he couldn't really go into it but this was the way things were now and he'd never abandon her but the new woman needed his attention too. She sort of laughed it off. Later on in the show she'd talked herself round to 'well, I guess he is just torn and doesn't know which way to turn, four kids by two women, he's confused. He probably gets love and security from me, and maybe something else I don't give from her'. When he leaves a party with his other new girlfriend in the car she says 'I love him, and I hate him. Who knows? We might end up getting married next year!'. The denial is very sad to witness. It's hard to imagine how anybody would ever put up with breadcrumbs like that from a partner. The second 'baby mother' is also Jamaican and fine with her status, as she's grown up around arrangements such as this, but his first girlfriend, the British woman, wanted them to be together exclusively and to raise their family. Somehow, throughout it all, he managed to keep his own apartment, work three jobs and also work as a club promoter, with four kids and two girlfriends! Anyway, I thought it was well worth a watch if you're at all interested in relationship dynamics, or dynamics of infidelity etc. And I wondered, if any of you have ever had a child born out of your primary relationship as a result of your or your partner's affair, how you dealt with that as time progressed? What was the emotional impact of finding out that your partner was going to go through parenthood with somebody else?
rumbleseat Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Whatever happens, I hope these women choose to not have any more kids with him. It sounds like he has more than enough on his plate already.
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