40 Fonzarelli Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 How have your dates gone where you had a few drinks? Does it create an illusion of a good time since mostly everyone has fun being tipsy? Can you make a true connection with someone while buzzed? Will you still be able to be yourself? I usually opt for drinks on the 1st date. 2nd date its usually dinner then drinks. I'm wondering if I should re-think my date strategies without alcohol.
crederer Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 I see no problem with it as long as you're not stupid drunk.
mammasita Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 I don't see a problem with a couple drinks on a first date. It's enough to loosen you up, but not so much that you get completely stupid and sloshed, It helps conversation flow. Go for it, just keep your wits about you.
Eternal Sunshine Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 1-2 drinks is fine. Anything more than that is a turn off. 3
Mascara Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 I'm British. We meet our dates in the pub. We usually get blinding drunk and fall over. I always think it's adorable when I read on here about people going for ice cream as a first date. 4
crederer Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 1-2 drinks is fine. Anything more than that is a turn off. What like....per hour? 2
Assasda Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 I dont think it matters. As long as no one gets sloppy, belligerent drunk
soccerrprp Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 I have never taken my dates on a date that involved alcohol. Since they drive too, it would be irresponsible. It's also true, as some of you admit, that it changes your personality somewhat, so what you see may not be REALLY what you get from indulging in alcohol. Alcohol doesn't come to play until I've gotten to know the person and we're some place safe and there's no need for either to drive.
PogoStick Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 I almost always go for drinks on a 1st date from OLD. Loosens things up when trying to connect with a complete stranger. 1
MercuryMorrison1 Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 I'm not a fun drunk so I don't usually drink on a first date..Or much at all anymore really.
Keenly Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 One is mandatory for me since I will be shy / nervous
melell Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Personally I opt for drinks. And I will have two or three. It's an anti anxiety potion in so many ways, sometimes I think people would have zero friends without it.
Miss_raptor Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Knowing my personal limits, I tend to opt for no drinks on a first date. I'm a lightweight so after two, I'm usually going into my life story with anyone who will listen. Great for strangers at a bar, not great for someone I want to date.
OpheliaSong Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Yes, maybe a glass of wine or a sangria. Social drinker so I would be turned off by someone getting sloppy drunk on first date.
deathandtaxes Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 (edited) I almost always go for drinks on a first date. I don't want to be with somebody that either doesn't drink or doesn't want me to drink. I usually have one or two (three if it goes well and long) over the course of the evening. Edited October 26, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 2
StoneRose84 Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 I think a couple of drinks is OK, it's never a good idea to get twisted drunk on a first date - especially if you don't know the person - being smashed can mean that you're more vulnerable!! I once went out with a guy who had three drinks to my every one. By the time I'd been there a few hours I think he'd had 9 pints. Then he tried to get me to go to some dive bar "for more". Complete and utter turn off, I never went out with him again.
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