Gabs2c Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 Hi guys, I came across this page and thought I'd give it a shot. I feel so alone and sad. My boyfriend and I had been living together for a year. I was living in Houston when we started talking about being serious I moved to San Antonio to be with him, left family and everything behind. Now, after a year of on and off breaking up and fighting constantly over non-sense. He's done with me, but it's so difficult to accept it because we live together. We have until mid-December for the end of our lease that is under both our names. My friends tell me to get out asap, but of course part of me holds on to hopes that he'll come back. From a guys perspective, is he done? I've texted him, talked to him, he keeps insisting he loves me but this just doesn't work anymore. He wants us to stay friendly till we leave and keep me as a friend, but Ive told him I cant. We are still being intimate from time to time and I know i need to stop doing this to myself because it keeps hurting me. I want to move back to Houston, but with school and work I think it's best to stay here until I finish. I miss my family. I only know a few people here. :/ Anybody going through the same?? Advice??
melell Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 I don't know if this will help you but my ex and I lived together 'broken up' a lot of the time. But it was never technically broken up. We still did everything the same. I think if you are living together, and everything is staying pretty much the same then there is a decent chance you could stay together. But again, it doesn't sound like it would be for the best at all. It certainly wasn't in my case.
Dinozzo925 Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 From a guy's perspective: Stop letting him sleep with you, he's getting all the benefits of a relationship (sex) without any of the commitment or responsibility. That's a pretty ideal scenario. Start cutting him out of you're life...going out to bars/dates with other guys...etc . How he reacts pretty much dictates whether he wants to stay with you or just use you until the end of the lease. Even if he wants you back though, should you really take him? That's a whole other bag of worms.
Author Gabs2c Posted October 25, 2013 Author Posted October 25, 2013 @Dinozzo925 Thank you for your advice...you're right and theres a pretty good point there.... @melell I really doubt he wants to stay, like Dinozzo925 was saying he's just taking advantage of having me around still. We had broken up a lot before and I knew in my hear it wasn't for real, but this time around he's serious and constantly rejects me when I suggest we work it out. Says he gave it all he could. :/
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