Am i still in love with him do you think?

[beats88]

Hi there

So it's been 4 years since i broke up with my ex, i called it off but it was a mutual agreement as the relationship had been stale for a while and it was just easier to stay together.So we broke up, i went to uni and quickly fell in love and into another relationship that i am still in today. It is everything i ever wanted in a relationship: loving, affectionate, chilled, mature, fun and most importantly it's easy. We just work and i love him very much. But......After all this.....he just isn't my ex and i don't feel the way i do for this boyfriend like i did my ex....but i can't put my finger on what it is that's different. My ex was my first proper love, i was obsessed with him, crazily, there was drama in relationship and a lot of the time i was miserable.*So why lateluhave i been thinking of him everydsy, dreaming of him frequently and when i think of our memories i feel....almost sad.I think i must miss the drama of the relationship but there are parts of him that i miss too. Do you think it sounds like i still have feelings for him? Or does it sounds like he's just an ex that will always be a part of me? But i don't want to think about him all the time and some days i do admit, i still.sometimes wonder if he still is the one.Many thsnks for any help in advance!!!*****

[ColdAlone]

I think you have feelings for what it was. It might very well be that if you contact him you'll discover that he's no longer who he was.

 

Contacting him will swing things one way or another.... Unless you wanna keep feeling the way you feel...

[melell]

I really do doubt this is about being in love with him. But there will be some part of it that you are missing. Or something you got from that relationship that you aren't getting from the current one. Perhaps the passion that seems to come from drama?

 

How long were you together?

 

You need to be careful with this, the mind plays tricks!

[ponchsox]

It sounds like your current relationship is boring you and you are chasing something you can't have.

[Grumpybutfun]

beats:

Everyone has a soft spot for their first love. It is the first time you felt something so profound and deep not to mention the oxytocin that first comes as a response to most of your physical exploration. When you met him, you were idealistic, carefree and probably viewed the world in a very different way. So, I would just chalk it up to reminiscing with rose-colored glasses for a gentler, quieter time in your life. Appreciate what you have and don't look back if you have someone who values and respects you. Your ex is an ex for a reason and whatever that reason is, staleness, boredom, lack of time together, etc. it was still enough of one to make you go forward without him in your life. If he was the one, he would still be in your life. Be careful not to lose something wonderful for something you described as stale earlier. GIGs is something you should probably look up, as you might be thinking that the ex is better because of romanticizing the past.

Good luck,

Grumps

[flight E]

I think you should start thinking of how lucky you are to be with this guy and everytime you think of ur ex, do sometin nice 4 this guy