TylerDurdenn Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 First off, apologies for my third thread in as many days (I think) I had come to terms that we we not getting back together, I stopped thinking about her, I lost that emptiness feeling and I lost the strange feeling in my stomach. Until 5 minutes ago. She owed me some money, I told her that I didn't want it and she could spend it on herself/give it to charity, she insisted that she give it back to me.. Well she just come round to give me the money, and the above feelings came crashing back down.. I met her, we laughed, chatted and hugged, she told me she is definitely not seeing anybody else and that we would 'talk soon'.. As I got home I cried like I have never cried before.. Back to square one again.. Do NOT meet your ex, I thought I could cope, I couldn't.
Author TylerDurdenn Posted October 24, 2013 Author Posted October 24, 2013 Use the money to spoil yourself. Nope, buying a load of food and giving it to homeless people. 7
Never Again Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 (edited) OP, I know where you're coming from. Meeting up definitely set you back, and that's to be expected. Especially after she basically gave you the in-person breadcrumbs (not seeing anyone and "talk soon?"...yup, breadcrumbs). My ex did nearly the same thing the last time she and I had to interact - sought me out, made sure I knew she wasn't involved with anyone, laughed and flirted a bit and told me we'd "talk soon". I had a bit of a backslide because of it too. Validates them, sets us back. It stinks, but you'll recover...and even faster this time around. Edited October 24, 2013 by Pfenixphire
Never Again Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 It means she's seeing someone, but doesn't want you to know about it. A few reasons for this... To ease her guilt, and not make her look like a slut should the word get out. And "I hope we can talk soon" means either she hopes to never hear from you again, or wants to keep you hanging as a plan B should she find herself homeless and pregnant... Or, just as likely: She's not seeing anyone, but is keeping you on the back burner in case she decides to come back.
Polak Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Just don't be hopeful about anything. Otherwise, you're doing alright. The way your feelings came crashing down when she came back to see you is normal... you were just reliving all the good times you had with her. It happens. Anyways, I agree with everyone else. The "I'm definitely not seeing anyone" line is useless and unnecessary in this situation. There's no point in telling you that. She may be keeping you as a Plan B, so try to continue with your life before she came over and you should do fine. Lesson learned!
Author TylerDurdenn Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 It's been a few days now and I still feel pretty low BUT, as of 5 minutes ago, I have completely deleted her from my life, no phone number and blocked on FB (I don't use anything else). I have no way to contact her, which feels strange. Do I delete all of her family from my FB? They are good people and I don't want them to get the wrong impression.
Omei Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 It's been a few days now and I still feel pretty low BUT, as of 5 minutes ago, I have completely deleted her from my life, no phone number and blocked on FB (I don't use anything else). I have no way to contact her, which feels strange. Do I delete all of her family from my FB? They are good people and I don't want them to get the wrong impression. They will know you're broken up it would be odd to keep them they might even talk about it being odd if say months went by and you kept them shes not going to be in your life anymore theres no reason to befriend her family anymore they will just squat in your friends list or May very well deleat you.
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