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For those in relationships - do you think you can you identify when you fell in love?

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mammasita Established Member

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This is probably a topic that pops up all the time, but Im just curious.......

 

I don't believe you can truly love someone at first sight, you can lust after them. True love takes time.

 

That said - how long did it TRULY take to fall in love and without a doubt be able to say "I love you" and mean it.

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For me I think real love occurs when you are unable to picture your future without that person in it.

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About 3.5 years in it became really serious.

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For my current relationship, I'd say it was around 3 months in. I fell for my guy very, very fast. Which is out of character for me.

 

We went through a 2-month breakup about a year and a half into our relationship, and since getting back together a ton of things have changed (for the infinitely better). And I can honestly say that the love I feel for him now feels more complete, in a way, than it ever did before.

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About 3.5 years in it became really serious.

Thats a loooooooong time..........:eek:

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Well the first year it was very new and recent so that does not really count. After that followed a 2 year period which was pretty much a detoriation of what we had. Luckily we made it work and the last 2 years have been pretty great. So I'd say the last 1.5 years was when real love developed.

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I don't believe you can truly love someone at first sight, you can lust after them. True love takes time.

I didn't even lust after my fiancé when we first met. He knew -- and I have never hidden the fact -- that I was not physically attracted to him when we met.

 

But a few weeks of dating showed me a truly amazing person that understood and fit with me better than any man I had ever known (and I'm the female here who has had hundreds of sexual partners and a handful of long-term boyfriends).

 

Love for me took time. But it ultimately produced an engagement, which I never thought possible. And now I have a man I truly can see growing old with.

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I started falling in love with him within a few months. I continue to fall in love with him ever year we are together. I see something new, different or appreciate something that I didn't see before.

 

I love him but I am still falling in love with him years later. :love:

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There are different types of love.

 

There's the heartstopping infatuation when you first meet somebody who you realise you want in your life forever (As a teenager, ha!)

 

There's the love you feel for somebody that goes slowly, builds up over months, and lasts for years.

 

There's that insane level of love and passion you feel for somebody who you can't have, where you know that being together would be an epic disaster but you don't even care because you love them and you want them, whatever the consequences. Blind love I guess that is.

 

There's the love you get when you meet somebody who turns your entire erotic life upside down, permanently, almost a reverence and a worship of this guy that suddenly gets you in a way nobody else has been able to.

 

I'd say I've only been in love four times but each time has been completely different.

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When I fell in love with my ex it was about 3 months in, and it was because my emotional needs were met.

 

Somehow I think it is more about us than them.

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For me, it was about a month in with my FI, and it caught me by surprise. When I'd first met him, I didn't think he was "my type" :rolleyes:, but because he was proving to be such a great guy (i.e. different from anyone I've ever met before), I wanted to keep seeing him. I was not putting expectations on anything, though, because I had been through a very rough breakup a few months prior, with someone who was a true narcissist. I was not missing my ex, but I'll be honest, he had hurt me in very lasting ways. It soon occurred to me, though, that the hurt was gone and was replaced with gratitude that someone like my FI actually existed. He was so good to me. He harbored every trait that I truly needed in a partner, but was too deluded by my prior relationships to realize. So, a month in, my FI told me he loved me. But I already knew he did... :) And I reciprocated, because I truly did as well. So yes, our love grew quickly, but it was based on strong compatibility and chemistry, and seeing two truly good people in each other. :love:

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I don't know when I fell in love with her but I know the moment when I realised I was:

We were I think just about 17, just friends at the time and camping with a few mates, it had been raining and raining, we were were so wet and muddy. it was early morning, the sun was literally just coming up, I was the only one up but it had stopped raining so i was tryingto cook breakast while we could - i had a camp fire going but I was struggling to balence the frying pan we had to fry our bacon.

I heard her come up behind me and be like "it's beautiful isn't it" - she meant the sun I guess, but I turned round to look at her and she just had on this green hoody, her hair was all up & she had a little mud on her forehead and she still looked like she'd walked straight of the front cover of a magazine!

And then she sat down and starting telling me I was doing the pan all wrong, and I didn't think I was, and you know when your arguing with someone and then suddenly what there saying makes total sense and you realise your wrong and there's nothing you can say? Yeah, that! I had nothing! And she was grinning this massive grin at me cause she knew she had me, I said something like 'yeah yeah, your loving this aren't you?'

She looked at me and went 'I love you'

I just laughed and told her I loved her too....and then as I heard myself say it out loud it dawned on me that the difference was I meant it! I did love her! I had for a while, and I still do now :love:

 

I actually haven't told anyone that...it's a little soppy, but it's the truth! :o:laugh:

 

I'd probably loved her for a long time before that, but I dont know where, the lines are blurry because we started as friends

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It was several months into the relationship, she was already saying "I love you". I was having loving feelings but I stuffed them and withheld saying it back, due to the hurts of past. She then told me a touching story about her self, about her character, and I felt I could let go and try again.

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I don't know when I fell in love with her but I know the moment when I realised I was:

We were I think just about 17, just friends at the time and camping with a few mates, it had been raining and raining, we were were so wet and muddy. it was early morning, the sun was literally just coming up, I was the only one up but it had stopped raining so i was tryingto cook breakast while we could - i had a camp fire going but I was struggling to balence the frying pan we had to fry our bacon.

I heard her come up behind me and be like "it's beautiful isn't it" - she meant the sun I guess, but I turned round to look at her and she just had on this green hoody, her hair was all up & she had a little mud on her forehead and she still looked like she'd walked straight of the front cover of a magazine!

And then she sat down and starting telling me I was doing the pan all wrong, and I didn't think I was, and you know when your arguing with someone and then suddenly what there saying makes total sense and you realise your wrong and there's nothing you can say? Yeah, that! I had nothing! And she was grinning this massive grin at me cause she knew she had me, I said something like 'yeah yeah, your loving this aren't you?'

She looked at me and went 'I love you'

I just laughed and told her I loved her too....and then as I heard myself say it out loud it dawned on me that the difference was I meant it! I did love her! I had for a while, and I still do now :love:

 

I actually haven't told anyone that...it's a little soppy, but it's the truth! :o:laugh:

 

I'd probably loved her for a long time before that, but I dont know where, the lines are blurry because we started as friends

 

Awww :bunny::D

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About 10/11weeks into our relationship he'd came to my nans birthday party - watching him help my dad hang up he 'happy birthday banners' before, and then entertain my little 8 year old cousin (who's normally the only boy under 25 at these family functions) he was playing with him, cut up his food for him, and then styled after to hop my mum clean up.

He's from A really big, close family and it just showed, and I just realised hn that I wanted that forever, ther was no one else I wanted at my side of these functions or for anything else!! :love: :love:

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