Zoe Lilith Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 Taking ballroom dancing classes, was really a good idea. It worked for me, anyways. I really had fun today. After I came home, all I could think about was, were the steps we learned that day. I loved it :-) This is the first time that I didn't think of him at all. What a relief! 2
Author Zoe Lilith Posted October 24, 2013 Author Posted October 24, 2013 After trying to get my mind off this guy by going out, reading books, chatting with friends over a cup of coffee, nothing helped..this, however, seems to be the only thing that's actually works for me...
Transplant Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 Many thanks for this - I'm trying to combat the lingering thoughts of 'her', as it were and I think one of the difficult things is to find something extraordinarily new, something that was never done or experienced with the other person, which can be inexhaustibly difficult as there seems to be so much experience entanglement with the other. I do hope I can find my dance lessons too. Best x
Author Zoe Lilith Posted October 24, 2013 Author Posted October 24, 2013 I know this is not for everybody...I am pleasantly surprised that it's working for me..mind you, I used to be a kind of girl, who listened to Metallica and Sepultura, etc...i found this really calming and helpful. On top of that, you get to meet people you never saw before.
BigGirlPantiesOn Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 Dancing is exercise, it raises your endorphins and seratonin levels which makes you feel good. It's also a beautiful art which is like meditation in motion. Meditation is a clearing of your mind of negative toxins. Good for you, excellent self care!! 1
Author Zoe Lilith Posted October 24, 2013 Author Posted October 24, 2013 Many thanks for this - I'm trying to combat the lingering thoughts of 'her', as it were and I think one of the difficult things is to find something extraordinarily new, something that was never done or experienced with the other person, which can be inexhaustibly difficult as there seems to be so much experience entanglement with the other. I do hope I can find my dance lessons too. Best x I wish the best for you. And don't listen to your friends, some of them may considered dancing classes ridiculous. But, no matter what, I found 'myself', it made me feel great. :-)
Author Zoe Lilith Posted October 24, 2013 Author Posted October 24, 2013 Dancing is exercise, it raises your endorphins and seratonin levels which makes you feel good. It's also a beautiful art which is like meditation in motion. Meditation is a clearing of your mind of negative toxins. Good for you, excellent self care!! I tried working out, I played tennis as well, I was angry due the break up, that calmed me down, but didn't get my mind of off him.
Transplant Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 I tried working out too, and still do, but at this point it is tough to extricate myself from her in this regard as we shared many times in the gym training, etc. I've even tried my hand at getting back in the ring, so to speak, as I boxed in college and graduate school but again, doing so now is a reminder of how my scarred knuckles and occasional black-and-blue eye used to pave the way for the 'I'll take care of you(s)' and the prospective ringside smiles, literal and metaphorical- some day these experiences will be entirely my own again, without hesitation or prejudice or lingering pairing(s) but for the time being it is a spiderweb. I've actually been moonlighting as a swimming instructor which has been somewhat of a relief, though most of my kids and younger moms remind me of her and her son.
Author Zoe Lilith Posted October 24, 2013 Author Posted October 24, 2013 I tried working out too, and still do, but at this point it is tough to extricate myself from her in this regard as we shared many times in the gym training, etc. I've even tried my hand at getting back in the ring, so to speak, as I boxed in college and graduate school but again, doing so now is a reminder of how my scarred knuckles and occasional black-and-blue eye used to pave the way for the 'I'll take care of you(s)' and the prospective ringside smiles, literal and metaphorical- some day these experiences will be entirely my own again, without hesitation or prejudice or lingering pairing(s) but for the time being it is a spiderweb. I've actually been moonlighting as a swimming instructor which has been somewhat of a relief, though most of my kids and younger moms remind me of her and her son. That isn't helping, obviously. Try something completely different, something that it isn't "you", something extraordinary..yoga, meditation, colour therapy. I am trying to learn more about that over the internet. I am not going to live in denial. I learned my lesson, I humiliated myself begging him to take me back, I couldn't stop thinking about him, no matter what I was doing. That changed today, not only am I NOT thinking about him all day today, I also feel some sense of relief. Even now, as I am typing this, it feels like I'm talking about someone else. I realise that I can't and won't let anyone bring me down! Karma is a b&*ch! Everything will fall into its place. Everything is happening for a reason.
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