bobbuttcake Posted December 11, 2004 Posted December 11, 2004 Hi guys, Im new here, just been reading the board for the past hour or so. Anyway I was hoping for some advice about my own situation. About 6 months ago I bumped into a girl in a bar (litterally!!), anyway we got talking and really liked each other, so we went back to her place. Anyway, we didnt have sex but we talked for a few hours. When I left I felt like id met someone special, we met up another couple of times before I had to leave for work, for 3 months and was not sure that I would return. We kept in touch over that period and I was quite excited when I realised I was going back there, and we would be able to meet up. So, a couple of days after I got back, we went for a few drinks together, we hit it off, she was even more beautiful than I had remembered, and we were both attracted to each other. We went out 3 times in the next few weeks and each time I felt a little bit more for her, and I got the same back. On the fourth time, I mentioned to her that I may not be staying in the area, but nothing was decided, she seemed dissapointed but it was not a huge issue, at least for me. After we parted that time, we had a break of two weeks where she seemed to be avoiding me before we met up again although we were out with separate groups of friends. After this we had another break of two weeks, again, I was pushing and she seemed to be pulling away. Then one night she turned up where I work (a bar), and we ended up going home together, she told me she never knew what I was thinking but she likd me, I told her I liked her too and we spent the day together and had fun. Following this we had another break before we went out for a movie. I felt things were weird and that she was protecting herself, I also felt that I couldnt hurt her if I had to leave so a few days later I went to see her and told her that I didnt think it would work out, we agreed that we both liked each other and that she needed some time to think. Two weeks later (today) I asked her to meet me to talk, she said she was busy and would be so for the next few weeks, I told her she needed to make an effort to see me and that if she couldnt then we shoud just be friends. Next thing she says she is not ready for a relationship now, and she hopes I understand and she doesnt want to hurt me etc. I cant help thinking that is an excuse for something else. She wont even face me and talk to me, eventohough ive told her that I wont push her into anything. What has happened? I dont know what to do next, should I wait, or should I move on with my life and find someone else?
Naive Posted December 11, 2004 Posted December 11, 2004 If she really liked you she would make an attempt to try to talk to you, but she is doing the complete opposite. Maybe you should lay off of her and wait and see if she comes around if she doesn't then move on.
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