MadisonGee Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 I'm new here, so Haii. I need some advice. There's this guy that I run into every now and again in the tunnels to the cafeteria or in the elevator at my job. He is so gorgeous and sweet. We had small talk several times. I know he definitely finds me attractive because he has called me beautiful and showers me with compliments every time I see him. He would even go out of his way to go in the same direction I'm walking in to talk to me. The thing is he hasn't asked me for my number. I feel like most of the times when we are together there is someone there, but even when we are alone like in the elevator we'll talk, but he doesn't ask me for my number or even my name. He has a very reserve and shy quality about him. There's a chance, he could just be nervous. Also, there an age difference. A really big one. So, there is also a possibility that he just sees me as a kid. But, if he thought I was too young for him then he wouldn't be giving these signals. I'm so confused. I want to act fast because my internship is coming to an end, and I don't want to leave and there could have been something between him and I. Any advice?
90s kid Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 I'm new here, so Haii. I need some advice. There's this guy that I run into every now and again in the tunnels to the cafeteria or in the elevator at my job. He is so gorgeous and sweet. We had small talk several times. I know he definitely finds me attractive because he has called me beautiful and showers me with compliments every time I see him. He would even go out of his way to go in the same direction I'm walking in to talk to me. The thing is he hasn't asked me for my number. I feel like most of the times when we are together there is someone there, but even when we are alone like in the elevator we'll talk, but he doesn't ask me for my number or even my name. He has a very reserve and shy quality about him. There's a chance, he could just be nervous. Also, there an age difference. A really big one. So, there is also a possibility that he just sees me as a kid. But, if he thought I was too young for him then he wouldn't be giving these signals. I'm so confused. I want to act fast because my internship is coming to an end, and I don't want to leave and there could have been something between him and I. Any advice? If he's constantly complimenting you and telling you that you're beautiful then he's definitely attracted to you. Maybe he's not asking you out for your number for other reasons. My theories: 1) He's got a girlfriend. There are some guys who will flirt with girls for the fun of it even though they're in a relationship. 2) It's possible that he hasn't asked you out because you haven't given him the signals that you like him in return. Do you flirt back with him? What do you say when he compliments you? 3) He likes you but he's uncomfortable with the age difference. How big is the age difference exactly? This is your workplace, right? Is he your boss? 1
Author MadisonGee Posted October 24, 2013 Author Posted October 24, 2013 If he's constantly complimenting you and telling you that you're beautiful then he's definitely attracted to you. Maybe he's not asking you out for your number for other reasons. My theories: 1) He's got a girlfriend. There are some guys who will flirt with girls for the fun of it even though they're in a relationship. 2) It's possible that he hasn't asked you out because you haven't given him the signals that you like him in return. Do you flirt back with him? What do you say when he compliments you? 3) He likes you but he's uncomfortable with the age difference. How big is the age difference exactly? This is your workplace, right? Is he your boss? He doesn't have a wedding band, so he's not married or he just doesnt wear a band. I wouldn't know any tell tell signs if he has a gf, though :/. Anyway, when he does complete I just smile, say thank you, or tell him he's making me blush. I do know he's in his early 40s, so 20 something years. I know its big, but I really like this guy. Something about him. He's not my boss. He works in an entirely different section than me.
filani Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 @ MaddisonGee With all due respect, your thread title is misleading. What exactly is 'mixed signals' about his behavior? He lavished you with compliments but hasn't asked for your name or number?! *Gasp* what on earth is he thinking? If anything I feel this guy is laying it on too thick and he needs to pull back before he finds himself on the wrong end of a sexual harassment charge! (A guy I know got hit with a sex' harassment charge for 'looking at the woman in a sexually aggressive manner!) It seems more like you want to know that you have this guy wrapped around your little finger. If you like him and you're convinced he likes you too then what's stopping YOU from making a move? Nothing in your post indicates you trying on your own end to push the interaction to a deeper level. Are you afraid of rejection?
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