tem7074 Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 I am really struggling to start NC and keep it. This summer fling in another city, turned LDR, then a break-up (by her), then back to some sort of pseudo-LDR which has dragged on for months. Want to relocate but have been unable to find a job and don't want to just up and quit my current one. I will leave out the rest of the details. I'm sure someone has a similar story. Best I could do with NC earlier this year is 11 days after the first break-up - yes I counted I've deleted her contact information numerous times since then, only to put it back and resume contact. But now she is seeing someone (and so am I actually, but there are no feelings there) and I decided I've had enough. Tried NC again this week, thought I was strong, but only made it one day (don't laugh). She just called me to tell me how much she missed me these last few days. IOf course I miss her too. This is the strongest physical and emotional connection I have ever had with another person. But we can't give other what we really need. It is driving me crazy - slowly ruining my life really. Can't concentrate at work, not sleeping well. Somehow I need to find the strength to stop, because I don't think she will.
TylerDurdenn Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 She's with someone else but is telling you that she misses you? Says a lot.
Author tem7074 Posted October 24, 2013 Author Posted October 24, 2013 I don't know what it says. She's attractive and can easily find a guy that lives in her town (I live over 1800 miles away). She isn't keeping me on the backburner because again, I don't live near her. I believe she misses me and what we had. But I suspect I am now her emotional crutch. And it doesn't make me feel great, since it is keeping me from moving on. Just need to grow a pair and start NC. So easy to break it in this situation because we still have that connection.
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