Simon Phoenix Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 ok i sorta get it better now what you guys are saying.. >>is there anyway to tell the difference between merely being just a piece of a@@ and him allowing his feelings for me again?? (cuz i know deep down he still cares for me--its my instinct on this, i really don't think i'm wrong) Well, first of all you have to go NC to see how far he's willing to go to pursue you. That means NOT ANSWERING HIS TEXTS. If he is serious, your NC won't stop him from pursuing you -- it will make him take you more seriously, because right now he doesn't take you seriously at all. Also, if he really wants to start anew, he'll bring up the issues from the past relationship without your prompting, especially what he did wrong personally. But honestly, you need to go NC for a while, a few months at least, before any of this can possibly happen. You need to stop answering him and being such an easy mark.
Author Brown-Eyez Posted October 26, 2013 Author Posted October 26, 2013 Well, first of all you have to go NC to see how far he's willing to go to pursue you. That means NOT ANSWERING HIS TEXTS. If he is serious, your NC won't stop him from pursuing you -- it will make him take you more seriously, because right now he doesn't take you seriously at all. Also, if he really wants to start anew, he'll bring up the issues from the past relationship without your prompting, especially what he did wrong personally. But honestly, you need to go NC for a while, a few months at least, before any of this can possibly happen. You need to stop answering him and being such an easy mark. yes, i agree I went NC in August and then he sent me a b-day message which i responded too then its a trend of him contacting me every couple of weeks and me responding and then him ignoring.. this last week was really the most we have communicated since August and we almost even saw each other again!! now nothing from him why? why? why? we were so close to meeting up and now its all gone to sh$t i just hate this we had a good spark going in the beginning (not that easy to do = i'm particular) ..that's why i'm still hung up on him but a whole lot less so now as much as I want to contact him I absolutely WILL NOT I've renamed him "hot stove" in my contacts!
Simon Phoenix Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 He's tugging at the leash, that's all it is. But whatever you do, stop responding. It's not doing you any good.
candie13 Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 while starting a new relationship is unsuitable, since you are not emotionally available, I think you should go out with new men, on dates. It'll stop you from thinking about your ex all the time and make you compare him with some (hopefully) normal guys. Really, the more men you meet and talk to, the more you'll see how f*cked up your ex is. There are some absolutely amazing people, out there, willing and able to give you so much more. Don't settle, don't compromise. Start moving, you're already late. 1
Author Brown-Eyez Posted October 26, 2013 Author Posted October 26, 2013 He's tugging at the leash, that's all it is. But whatever you do, stop responding. It's not doing you any good. ok I'll try ...he sent me a text wanting to know what I'm up to I'm gonna ignore it! cuz what can I say to him anyway??
Author Brown-Eyez Posted October 26, 2013 Author Posted October 26, 2013 while starting a new relationship is unsuitable, since you are not emotionally available, I think you should go out with new men, on dates. It'll stop you from thinking about your ex all the time and make you compare him with some (hopefully) normal guys. Really, the more men you meet and talk to, the more you'll see how f*cked up your ex is. There are some absolutely amazing people, out there, willing and able to give you so much more. Don't settle, don't compromise. Start moving, you're already late. these ^^ are not only really wise comments but very kind as well, thank you!
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