malxme Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 So I was recently dumped by my bf, whom I met at work (a bar). We were only officially together for 2 months, and while its irrational how upset I am about it after such a short time, I just cant help it. He was my first boyfriend after my last long term relationship ended, so it was kind of my first real relationship since then, first time trusting someone again. So in short, it was a big deal for me. I fell for him pretty hard. Not saying I fell in love, but I was really crazy about him. Care about him alot. Due to my last breakup being extremely ugly (i was dumped and it nearly destroyed me), I still have alot of issues from that, which at times caused strain in my new relationship. However I had warned my new bf that i was still dealing with it all (although it had been about 10 months), and he assured me he understood and wanted to help 'heal me'. Well after being kicked out of my house, dealing with uni exams and being far away from any family I had a bad couple of days and I admit to being quite moody. My boyfriend wasnt really there for me and it upset me alot so we had a small fight (not huge or anything). I asked him before I left work one night if our relationship was still worth fixing to him and he said yes. However the next day he turned up and my house (with his MOTHER.....) to pick up his things. and that was it. no conversation, nothing. Boom. And after eventually basically FORCING him to talk to me (he was extremely reluctant), he told me he doesn't care about me anymore, doesn't want to talk to me, wants nothing to do with me. Can this really happen so quickly? Within a couple of days to go from "Im crazy about you" "You're amazing" "Im so lucky to have you" to "I dont care about you anymore".. Im really sad about it because I got very attached to him as we spent alot of time together; we'd be at work together, then often he'd come home with me after to hang out. Its so hard because we work together, and he has been quite mean to me at work. Pretend I don't exist, wont look at me and answers questions from me reluctantly (im still new at my job and often need help). Can this really happen with guys or is it just a defence from him, and I could have a chance to salvage this? I'd like to if I could, despite his cold treatment. All in all he's a great guy, just a little immature (he is younger than me) and very special to me....
ponchsox Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 Rule #1 Don't date someone at work. If the relationship goes south, it can cause a lot of problems at work.
Author malxme Posted October 24, 2013 Author Posted October 24, 2013 Yes well it's already happened, so..... And I was hesitant, he convinced me it'd work out fine. If things didn't work out we'd both be professionals. Only one professional here and it aint him.
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