all_cats_rgray Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 How does the ex (dumper) get a new one so fast. It's almost like they left you for them...did they... I mean. Its still lasting a year and going. .. Their has to be more to this then I know. Cause how does the first person you start dating turn into a long-term relationship. I'm just being crazy right... Even if he met her during, would it matter. Why would it matter. Non of it matters. I can't even think of a person that is half as awesome as my ex. (aka. im crazy) The only way I can imagine the reason he get along so great with the first girl he meets, a month after a 7 year relationship is that he knew her before.. How the f.u.c.k do you bond with someone... i mean the first girl that seems, interesting, that likes you back. withing one month. .. I know ..i know.. none of this matters. only worry about your self.
JDPT Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 Why torture yourself asking why? Leave the past where it belongs, you are better than this. It's time for you to make genuine progress.
Mario79 Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 Kinda weird what love does to us. I get you. My ex finished me after a 2 year relationship and we broke up 6 months ago and now she says she is planning to marry this guy. Someone told me more than likely I was being cheated on. Sometimes things are hard within the relationship so other people who do not have that role of partner may seem more attractive when thing go rough because they might be listeners or a should to cry on. Hate them.
h0000 Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 how the hell did you guys find out they have someone else? I have no idea if my ex has found anyone else yet.. 4
Kobe2345 Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 @h00000- u just feel it, theres some fishy going on.. then i went to look for answers.... and i was correct.
Mz_sassy_77 Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 If it makes you feel any better chances of it last LT aren't high. What's a year? Its nothing really. My ex just moved on to the next one too. I have no idea if its lasted or not but I really don't care. I actually feel sorry for anyone who is unfortunate enough to meet him because at first, and I mean for about a year, he seems like a great guy. But under that facade is the real him. The one who really doesn't feel a lot of emotion, even though he acts like he does, the one who uses you while its convenient and then throws you away, the one who gets bored, the one with MAJOR issues. Like I said I feel sorry for person who dates my ex. 4
aybc123 Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 How does the ex (dumper) get a new one so fast. It's almost like they left you for them...did they... I mean. Its still lasting a year and going. .. Their has to be more to this then I know. Cause how does the first person you start dating turn into a long-term relationship. I'm just being crazy right... Even if he met her during, would it matter. Why would it matter. Non of it matters. I can't even think of a person that is half as awesome as my ex. (aka. im crazy) The only way I can imagine the reason he get along so great with the first girl he meets, a month after a 7 year relationship is that he knew her before.. How the f.u.c.k do you bond with someone... i mean the first girl that seems, interesting, that likes you back. withing one month. .. I know ..i know.. none of this matters. only worry about your self. They may have been friends before and he had a crush on her for a bit before you broke up/ that's what triggered the breakup, yeah. Because he was the one who did the dumping he was already emotionally moved on and didnt have any of the self-esteem hit/ wanting what we cant have anymore baggage to deal with so maybe he just got lucky and met another person her was compatible with straight away. But beating yourself up over it isn't going to help
Mz_sassy_77 Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 How the f.u.c.k do you bond with someone... i mean the first girl that seems, interesting, that likes you back. withing one month. .. And yeah the first girl that seems interesting will do, or the first one that will sleep with them will do. My EX actually tried chasing after this one woman that he used to complain to me about because of how annoying he found her personality. I mean WTF??? But then again my EX cant stand being on his own so yeah anyone will do
organizedchaos Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 @h00000- u just feel it, theres some fishy going on.. then i went to look for answers.... and i was correct. And therein lies your problem. You don't just feel it. If you're not talking to them, how could you think something is going on? You wondered, you looked, you found out something you didn't want to know. If you don't look, you won't know, and you won't care. 1
h0000 Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 @h00000- u just feel it, theres some fishy going on.. then i went to look for answers.... and i was correct. can you give me an example how you felt it? or do you mean they become distant before the break up and you feel they met someone else?
Sugarkane Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 I don't know why dumpers aren't called psycho for cheating and/or having a jump off. Very unattractive.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 I don't know why dumpers aren't called psycho for cheating and/or having a jump off. Very unattractive. lol I wouldnt necessary call them psychos or anything. Jeffrey Dahmer is a psycho...dumpers who cheat or have a jump off probably arent in that same realm. I hate cheating dont get me wrong so just keep that in mind. With that said, its human nature to be curious and wonder what is out there. Even with someone you KNOW is "the one" or whatever, that part of the mind still wonders "would I be happy with this person?" I think thats normal and not anywhere near psycho. I think many of us have been "tempted" at some point. I had one of my friends (who is a girl) come over to my apartment one time to play games while my GF was out of town and you could TELL something could have happened if I wanted it to. The signals were strong. Now, those who ACT on those impulses arent necessarily bad people either....just not incredibly trustworthy. We ALL make mistakes and those who say "I couldnt control myself" are full of horse turds. Its a choice to cheat. Its human nature to make yourself happy, so in that aspect, no cheaters are not psycho....not loyal yes lol
Simon Phoenix Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 I mean, unless you marry the first person you dated, odds are that you are going to marry/have a relationship with a "rebound" of sorts. The whole "rebound" thing that's bandied about on these boards is blown way out of proportion. Rebounds are no less or no more successful than any other relationships. I mean when I fall for someone, it's usually pretty sudden and it usually comes out of the clear blue sky. No one plans to fall in love -- it just happens. As for the OP, it sucks, but there's nothing you can do and obsessing about it is absolutely the worst thing you can do. That's why you shouldn't be paying attention to your ex. I mean, I haven't a clue if my ex is dating anyone or not. She probably has since we broke, but the less you pay attention to that sh*t, the better. This type of rumination is completely pointless and counterproductive. 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 On of my friends, her father passed away when she was young. Her mum remarried pretty quickly, about 12 months after he died. She said "When you've been in love once, recognising it the next time is easier." I think after you've dated a few people, paid attention to the lessons learned, meeting and falling for the next person gets easier. I've certainly found that. The truth is, we are all replaceable. It's just something you have to accept. This is easily the best thing I've ever read on here. *standing ovation* 1
hurts2death Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 it doesnt matter if my ex gets a new one. cause 1.he waont have my soul.2i went to the moon and back with my ex and we were together for 3 years i was with her family... haha/.. the new one falling in her trap without researching her lol...its pathetic i feel sorry for her... you cant delete past.... YOU CANT
Kobe2345 Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 can you give me an example how you felt it? or do you mean they become distant before the break up and you feel they met someone else? they give u some random reasons out of no where and also stating their so called *friend* that i never heard of helping them out 1
Kobe2345 Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 And therein lies your problem. You don't just feel it. If you're not talking to them, how could you think something is going on? You wondered, you looked, you found out something you didn't want to know. If you don't look, you won't know, and you won't care. Dawg, when an unknown *friend* comes in to place, u dont need to look.. Comon man, think about it
LuvsTrucks2 Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 @h00000- u just feel it, I agree with this, it's a feeling, you sense it.
Robert Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 ****Moderators Note**** Please read the thread starters first post in the thread and post to their concerns. On Topic posts please, no fighting or insults. Thanks 1
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