irc333 Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 **Note** This is LONG. I have a male friend of mine, late 40's and single. He's been acting strange lately or maybe he's always been this way. I think he has dating issues. I'll start with a recent event of his where he met a nice woman at a Meetup event and during said event, he found out she was a swing dancer...and so was he...so he asked her to dance and they cut some rug. It's not often he finds women that dance the old-fashioned way, but they seemed to be into each other at that moment. He got her number and touched base with her later. But, it wasn't to ask her out, but he is somehow trying to tap dance asking her out by making these "tentative" plans with her, not sure how to explain it. Recently, he was talking to her on the phone and apparently there was this Meetup that was scheduled to go to this haunted forest, I was under the impression he was going to rendezvous with her and the group and they'd go in together. But turns out, while on his way there, he was running low on gas and wound up 30 mins late, so he was late for the group going into the haunted forest, but fortunately another male acquaintance arrived late, too, so they went in together and he left. And I had asked, "Um, so did you ever see her while you were there?" and he said, "I think I may have seen her in passing when she was with the other group.", he said rather non-nonchalantly. I find this particularly odd, because if it were me I'd make it a point, even if I was late, to WAIT for her to hang out with her. Prior to this, he mentioned he'd be in a location to do some boating, and she said, "Oh, I'll be there in the city right next to it, maybe I'll see you there?" Of course, he gave no indication of the hint she gave about meeting up down there, but he claimed he'd be too occupied with said activity. I finally asked, him, "Have you asked her out?" and he said, "No, not yet" and I asked, "Why not?" and he said he was looking at her Facebook profile and saw how chock full of pictures of how busy she was and assumed she was too busy and he claimed he had a busy life too of social events and other Meetup activities. This isn't the first time, prior to this he was actively dating a woman, was in the beginning stages, I met her, really sweet lady, very pretty eyes and rather energetic. We were at this private party and his date asked him to dance...he said his ankle was hurting so he'd just wasn't much up for dancing that night...so she asked me to dance with her and her friend instead. (Don't worry, wasn't trying to steal his gal, lol) Anyway, this one woman at the party had taken a liking to him, asked him twice to dance and he complained of ankle pains (didn't bother to say he was WITH someone). Third time, she grabs his hand and drags him onto the dance floor. This irritated the woman he was with when she saw this happen....didn't go over well, and she dumped him. Before that he was going to an event that was very close to her place, and she hinted on joining him by saying, "Hey, that's right down the road from me", he never did invite her, but he invited me. Go figure, right? Apparently, he said he reserved said event for the people who had known there for a very long time, and didn't feel real comfortable bringing a stranger into the group..(or clique I suppose). He won't even wear a costume at the Halloween parties, so he winds up being the "I'm too cool to wear a Halloween costume" guy whilst looking like the odd man out while everyone is dressed up. He said the whole Halloween thing stopped appealing to him after he turned 10. Anyhow, that's just to name a few instances, but he's a good friend otherwise, but I'm wondering if he's sabotaging his situation?
Assasda Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 I think your friend lives life on his own terms, and thats what makes him appealing to women. You could learn from him
Author irc333 Posted October 24, 2013 Author Posted October 24, 2013 I think your friend lives life on his own terms, and thats what makes him appealing to women. You could learn from him At first I thought this, but then I woke up. In fact he's sabotaged his chances with women, thus has lost credibility.
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