baxter85 Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 have this girl at work who I've been working with, we expressed mutual interest. However she is having a boyfriend, well 3 months later they broke up(a week as of today), I know relationships don't end right away and they take time, so I told her I would like to keep distance until you get yourself together, by means no contact because anything I might say might come of negative or me trying to push. She did take so bad and told me why I would do that, even accusing me for stepping away because I couldn't get what I want from her so I'm dropping her off, I told her that wasn't my intention as my intention is give her the space she needs, she fired at me and told me ok we'll do it your way with a very angry tone, I begged her telling that I'm sorry and I take it back but she won't listen and insists on doing what I initially asked and she's cutting off everything until I decide what I want from her. What shall I do? Is there a way to fix it? I told her I like her already and she said it back, I messed up yesterday and she doesn't want to talk to me right now. How long should I wait before talking to her? Also, I still see her every day at work.
I-Love-Liberty Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Well begging will get you nowhere. Wait until she talks to you. She is probably just emotional and sensitive because her and her bf just broke up. You can't take back what you said so just give the situation some space and time then reanalyze and reconvene later if the opportunity presents itself. For now, let it be. That's just my opinion man, I don't have all the right answers.
Ami1uwant Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 My gut is thinking she may have broke up with him in order to date you....then you have hung her out to dry. I am guessing you both are mid-late 20s so she is still the time that goes from BF to BF without a break. Breakups are driven by finding an upgrade that comes along.
Assasda Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 You did the right thing by giving her space. SHE was irrational blowing up on you -the mistake you made is apologizing for giving her space, and taking it all back. You should have just leave her alone and let her come to her senses. You should just leave her alone now, and let her talk to you, you dont need to fix anything, and you dont need to aoplogize, know wonder her and her bf broke up
Author baxter85 Posted October 24, 2013 Author Posted October 24, 2013 My gut is thinking she may have broke up with him in order to date you....then you have hung her out to dry. I am guessing you both are mid-late 20s so she is still the time that goes from BF to BF without a break. Breakups are driven by finding an upgrade that comes along. That's not the case, first I'm in mid 20s and she's early 20s, she didn't break up with him for me. He was her project BF that she wants to make him better and I came in the picture as what she wants him to be but he will never be. As for the break up she was forced by her parents to do so, because of details I wish not to share. So I didn't hang her out dry yes I'm a significant upgrade but not the way she wanted to be. You did the right thing by giving her space. SHE was irrational blowing up on you -the mistake you made is apologizing for giving her space, and taking it all back. You should have just leave her alone and let her come to her senses. You should just leave her alone now, and let her talk to you, you dont need to fix anything, and you dont need to aoplogize, know wonder her and her bf broke up I guess I'll do my best to achieve that knowing that I still have to make an eye contact with her on daily basis, hopefully not to crack. Thanks
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