mikejensen3355 Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I think that's where I'm at now. I know for some it's missing them or regret or still wanting them back. But just knowing that she'd rather be with someone else. That she's happier without me. That she'll tell her friends and family that she's happier without me. On one hand I know I treated her really well, wasn't clingy or any of that stuff. But on the other, it's such a sick feeling knowing she just didn't want it all with me. How do you guys get past that?
h0000 Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Just yesterday i was feeling this rejection..I have no good advice except after a few months you would think its ok. you would think she's stupid/crazy or whatever (she gotta have some flaws right?) and you wont care if a person like her rejects you or not.
faithfully Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I'm trying to take each day as it come. but I know each day gets better and better tho. With me its the rejection of not being good enough after everything I did for him. I still miss him too don't get me wrong. Looking back at it now tho. I am sure we will find somebody who will want us for us and cherish our quality. I just remind myself. If it was meant to be. It will be
headinthecloud Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Letting go of what could have been is the hardest part. 3
theothersully Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Hooking up and hanging out with other girls. I had a miserable divorce. There is no better cure for feeling unwanted than to go and be wanted again.
geegee81 Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Yes rejection is extremely difficult. I don't like the feeling at all. In my mind i thinking wow. I am intelligent, very nice, fun, 2 graduate degrees, extremely attractive, no kids, career, etc. But i cant find a man that wants me. It hurts sometimes. I tried so hard to live a decent life, and all i ever wanted was love, but i cant have it. I'll wait patiently. 1
ponchsox Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Not anymore. The hardest part is losing companionship but it can be replaced just as much or if not better by someone else. 2
aybc123 Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 One of them. Not from the breakup, we had a complicated relationship and it's not like i hadn't broken up with her at one point so i can deal with that ok. But the rejection of just being completely ignored, feels like i just don't exist and like she doesn't respect me anymore, i think that's the hardest thing. Throughout the relationship i guess i was her rock, solved her problems and she'd always call me her hero, say she was so proud etc, she couldn't have had more respect, and not she doesn't even respect me enough to speak to me or reply to a text. That's what hurts the most.
ponchsox Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 One of them. Not from the breakup, we had a complicated relationship and it's not like i hadn't broken up with her at one point so i can deal with that ok. But the rejection of just being completely ignored, feels like i just don't exist and like she doesn't respect me anymore, i think that's the hardest thing. Throughout the relationship i guess i was her rock, solved her problems and she'd always call me her hero, say she was so proud etc, she couldn't have had more respect, and not she doesn't even respect me enough to speak to me or reply to a text. That's what hurts the most. I thought the same thing but it could be they are going NC because they hurt too.
Transplant Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 That or maybe she does respect you enough to not call or reply to your texts. My ex broke up with me because, as she says, she couldn't make it work with her life - there's a good chance that's a kind euphemism for 'I don't want to be with you' and her no contact with me might be a sign of respect, in hopes that I'll heal or move on with as few inflicted scars as possible but thinking about her motivations or rational(s), or lack there of, has gotten me nowhere in a hurry. 1
im_thedude Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 For me, chalking up the rejection to simple incompatibility is all I could do. I know I gave the relationship my all. I had my flaws that I held myself accountable for, she had hers that she refused to try and fix. Ultimately, they just clashed and there was nothing I could have done about it. 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 For me, chalking up the rejection to simple incompatibility is all I could do. I know I gave the relationship my all. I had my flaws that I held myself accountable for, she had hers that she refused to try and fix. Ultimately, they just clashed and there was nothing I could have done about it. ^^Agreed. It's still a jagged pill to swallow and a bruised ego is just no fun
im_thedude Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 ^^Agreed. It's still a jagged pill to swallow and a bruised ego is just no fun It still hurts like hell to think about my ex despite so much logically and factually sound evidence showing how little there was I could have done. I just sigh and get out of the house when that pain creeps up. Not sure how long it will take to stop hurting when I look back at the relationship. I really do want to be able to just look at the memories we had fondly but it's not possible at this point
Author mikejensen3355 Posted October 24, 2013 Author Posted October 24, 2013 For 2 years I did everything for that girl and her kids. Emotionally, financially, we went on a lot of great trips, I loved her kids like my own. Are women always just going to look for something better? And she's having the time of her life while I'm still picking up the pieces. While my only happiness is that the pain and anxiety has lessened a little bit since it happened months ago? And to know that she'd just flat out rather be this other guy she left me for. That she'd rather have him be the man for her kids. I treated them like gold. I've never been this angry before. I just want to go over there and yell at her. I never would because I still love her kids and wouldn't want them to see something like that. I don't want her back in any way, I'm just still so broken from it all.
forgetmenot75 Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 Rejection and letting go are the hardest things I've experienced in my life. I believe that we get hurt because of that rejection, it's an incredible painful feeling. The one we've chosen don't love us back. They prefer to be with someone else. They chose someone else to give their love, ther TIME. It's their time they give to that someone else what hurts the most. The time we spend thinking of them when they prefer not to spend their time with us. So painful to let go that person we still love. Unimaginable painful. We are al by ourselves now. Alone. And it hurt so much. 1
forgetmenot75 Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 Breathe. You can't condemn her for not loving you anymore. You are a loving person, for sure. She is just not interested anymore. S### happens. I'm sorry
Mario79 Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 Rejection is hard, but letting go is even harder. I was so invested in her, was trying to make it work. It was only after she left I realized that she came into my life, turned things upside down, and I was no longer how I remember me being. She was a part of my life, that now that she left I find myself having to learn feel happy, how to get back to where I was before. Letting go is the hardest.
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