ponchsox Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Dated a girl who after a few dates told me she had herpes. Would that be an immediate deal breaker for you?
Philosoraptor Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 For me? Yes. I don't think poorly of anyone who has contracted an STD, but my health is more important than someone I've spent only a short time getting to know.
ConstantVoyager Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I'd probably wait a lot longer to have sex with the person, but ultimately I'm not going to chuck aside a great relationship over an STD. Most are curable and all respond to treatment. I'm glad I've never had to make the choice.
mammasita Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I've never had to make the decision, but I'm pretty open minded - so all things considered (are they a douchebag or not...etc) I would be willing to take a chance getting to know them.
TigerCub Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 If someone had an STD and are cured of it - fine, but I wouldn't date someone with HIV or Herpes or most types of Hepatitis (These things aren't curable...yet). It may not be nice - but I wouldn't want to risk getting any of those.
Philosoraptor Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 For me? Yes. I don't think poorly of anyone who has contracted an STD, but my health is more important than someone I've spent only a short time getting to know. Let me add on, now that others have pointed it out, that a fully cured STD in the past wouldn't bother me. I'm referring to the persistent ones that are uncurable.
Author ponchsox Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 I'd probably wait a lot longer to have sex with the person, but ultimately I'm not going to chuck aside a great relationship over an STD. Most are curable and all respond to treatment. I'm glad I've never had to make the choice. Herpes in not curable. And this is the worst kind, down below.
ConstantVoyager Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Herpes in not curable. And this is the worst kind, down below. I know it's not curable. It is treatable though.
Author ponchsox Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 I just can't take the risk. I wouldn't sleep with her unless I knew marriage was imminent. Even though the risk of contraction with protection is low, their is still a shedding period and if the relationship doesn't work out, I'm not going to risk ruining my future prospects. 1
tlegend Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Dated a girl who after a few dates told me she had herpes. Would that be an immediate deal breaker for you? Only you can make that decision and live with it.
Midnight_Princess Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I wouldnt. Not unless i was sure there was a future but you cant know after a few dates. Its a hard call. Gotta be thankful she told you though alot of people wouldnt, sounds like a decent girl.
todreaminblue Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 (edited) i had to look it up wasnt sure if you could have sex and it be safe How to Have a Fulfilling Sex Life When You Have Genital Herpes i would find as much information as i could on what to do, what not to do..i would consult a doctor.if i truly cared for the person......herpes would be a disappointment i am a bit phobic ok very ...used to wash myself with diluted bleach..... and scrub.. when it comes to stds i dotn feel good ...i guess all people wouldnt feel good..... but i would not judge them as unsuitable.... if i truly cared for someone them having herpes from what i have read ...you can still work things out....it is a risk though...i really would like not to have to face this problem and when and if i do ......i will not write a person off straight away...my heart would sink though....i was at high risk fo contracting stds.....part of a group that was...i never did........deb Edited October 23, 2013 by todreaminblue
devilish innocent Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 Fear of STIs is one of the reasons why I would never have sex with anyone unless we'd dated for a very long time. I looked up genital herpes. It looks as though a fairly large percentage of the population has this, and it's not as scary as some STIs. I'd like to think I'd be open-minded and understanding about dating somebody with this issue, especially if they had an excuse such as having been with few partners or having been much younger when they were promiscuous. In all honesty, I'm not certain I'd be able to get past it. Even if I waited a year to have sex, which I wouldn't mind, the thought of exposing myself to an infection after that time period would be a turn-off. It's one of those things where I'd have to be in that situation to be certain of what I'd do.
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