37yoff Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Hey, thanks for reading. So I am really into this girl. She is 15 years younger than me, we see each other occasionally at work. We would occasionally flirt but I never thought she was into me. Apparently she kept telling me she was single but I kept missing the signals haha. Eventually we became friends on facebook. We would flirt a little, but I still wasn't sure. She seemed very sweet. So right after we started talking her and her friends went to Europe. The first few days she messaged me everyday..then it just stopped. One day she said it was hard to get a signal. I never heard from her for 3 weeks. Then she came home and I saw some guy kept tagging her in posts saying they were in love or on dates. Snoop a little.. I had no idea she had a bf! So I play it off. I finally see her at work last month, and give her the cold shoulder. I get a message that night saying I was being rude. I said I thought she ditched me and she said I was being a girl. So we started chatting again. Long story short, her friends were going to vegas the same weekend I was going with friends. We met up late at night. She explained her and the guy weren't together. She thought I was married. Im not. But the job I have a lot of girls think the guys are pigs. Sooo.. it was all good and we had amazing sex. She left a few hrs later in a rush, embarrassed she was walking in vegas at 8 am. But I walked her home. She texted me later saying happy sweetest day. Later we met at the pool and she barely acknowledged me. Then I get a message really sweet asking to come spend the night again. We did , amazingly again. She kept saying she wanted to get together at home. Next morning, same, she was 5 steps ahead of me walking back, and told me she hated me going into hotel?? I've heard from her a few times since we got back. So I sent her a message explaining my situation. We had a small talk. I asked her to go out this weekend and she said she was working all weekend. So I waited a few hrs and asked her to go out today, and then joked I was being a stalker. She said I was fine, and that I would hate her, but she has school all day. And that was the last I heard. I did message her friend and asked her what was up. Maybe stupid. The friend wants me to date her. She said the girl needs to drop this guy? Anyway, so did I get used? I am completely lost as to what happened? I know there may not be a correct answer, but any ideas.????
headinthecloud Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 In short, yes. She's playing you. The age difference is showing here. I would let it be and go NC. Too many red flags. 1
Author 37yoff Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 Also, I feel like I screwed up because I was surprised she was into me. Mostly just the age thing. But all our conversations were over text or facebook, never phone. Been out of the game for awhile haha. Acted like a bitch. Oh well, ya, I won't be contacting her but I doubt I will hear from her
Assasda Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I think you started messing up after you knew that she liked you. When you found out that she was attracted to you, you became a wuss. Go back to when you didnt know that she was attracted to you. Just have fun with the girl, and dont act needy, (Giving her the cold shoulder and all that)
Author 37yoff Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 I think you started messing up after you knew that she liked you. When you found out that she was attracted to you, you became a wuss. Go back to when you didnt know that she was attracted to you. Just have fun with the girl, and dont act needy, (Giving her the cold shoulder and all that) So you don't think it's too late? I'm not sure. And yes the cold shoulder was immature
Assasda Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I dont think its too late. Just go back to the way you were before. with NO EXPECTATIONS. Chicks have lives too, understand, they might flirt with different guys. Its just your duty as a man to remain cool. Fonzi is the name of the game
Author 37yoff Posted October 24, 2013 Author Posted October 24, 2013 ****ty side note. I was checking Facebook after gym when she was tagged in message Something about her friend excited she's coming to Florida in a few weeks. Apparently this bf is going with her and said how excited they were to go. Sweet, now I feel like a sucker. Why can't I be a normal guy, bang and be done?
Author 37yoff Posted October 25, 2013 Author Posted October 25, 2013 Well, her friend told me today she talked to her. Said she didn't want to date me, and she's not sure if her and ex are done. She told her it was just a couple quickies It's weird because her friend didn't understand all the things she was saying to me about dating too. Also the girl doesn't know I talked to friend Am I strange for a guy to be so hurt after losing this girl? Most guys would be thrilled, but I'm hurt I won't see her again.
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